Tired of the roller coaster world of online dating, hit mainly valleys, and none of the peaks? Could be you have a lackluster profile. You are charming, upbeat, even fun, but your profile doesn’t show it
Many online books promise eye-catching profiles, with expert help being questionable at best. One book advised men to top their profiles with weird, cryptic titles such as: “Where Are My Sunglasses? Oh, Here They Are.” Cheesy pickup lines as catch phrases are pretty bad too. Intelligent women see those and keep moving.
Ask your friends what they like best about you. Tell them you are writing a profile and you’ll be amazed what they come up with. Guys ask your women friends or sisters who are well aware the ability to throw a perfect spiral is not dating profile material.
Cherie Burbach, writer, former online dater, and now happily married gal gives five tips for writing an excellent profile.
- Remember stay positive, do not drag out baggage.
- Embrace your uniqueness, that way you stand out from the crowd.
- Make sure you include something everyone likes to do such as eating. If you list pole vaulting, ultra marathons, and geocaching as your go to items, you will limit your possibilities.
- Be descriptive. While you don’t have to overwhelm with words, the right word packs more punch as opposed to generalities.
- Stay current. If your profile includes latest movie, book, or restaurant you visited, make sure you update it at least once a month. Otherwise it looks like you are doing nothing. It is a bit like real estate the updated or newer listings get more looks.
Keep in mind, your unique sense of humor or sarcasm may not read well. The reader can’t hear your tone of voice or see your twisted smile to be aware you’re teasing. It is okay to be clever, but don’t try too hard because it shows.
An example of a clever heading: Looking for My Last First Date. The reader has to think to understand the person wants a long term relationship. The moment the reader stops to think, interest is tickled. That’s all you need to gain a second glance.
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