A break up doesn't have to be permanent. For some people a little time apart is enough for them to decide that they want to get back together. However for some couples a new relationship only comes after a long time apart.
While you may find some comfort in a relationship with your ex, it's not always so simple. Your ex is not the same person as they were when you were together. During your time apart you've both changed, so this is truly going to be a new relationship, not a continuation of the old one.
Although the relationship will be new, before you start, you need to deal with your past. Talk about any problems from the past now so that they don't come up later as an issue. Also, deal with the reason you broke up. If one or both of you hasn't let go of your past together, your new relationship will be in trouble from the start.
The best way to proceed is slowly. Don't try to force intimacy or force a relationship on your ex. It's better to take the time to get to know each other again and discover who you've each become in your time apart. Start off dating and then see where the relationship goes over time.
Even if you had an amazing relationship before, you're not guaranteed success in your new relationship. That was then, this is now. You have to constantly remind yourself to forget the past relationship and start anew. If you're able to do that you stand a good chance of making things work the second time around.
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