When love comes a knocking and the heart has been twitterpated there is not much one can do to stop the emotional thrill. How often have we seen a friend hook up with someone we thought was not a good match for them and yet no matter how we tried to warn them they still got burned? To help avoid the pain of going from romance to rivalry, there are three elements to look for in a potential partner. If the signs are there, beware!
When two people come together, they are bringing with them past failures. Now whether they have been the one that torpedoed their own relationships, or have been the victim doesn't matter as much as the fact that they went through the experience. Some may have had failed business ventures or bad family dynamics, but whatever the past, go in with both eyes open. Know there may be fallout that affects your current situation.
Now please keep in mind the following traits described may be hidden deep within the personality of the potential partner. In fact they may not even realize that these elements reside within them! He or she may appear to be the most charming and delightful person you have ever met. They can and will at times, use sweet language and endearing touch to draw you away from who you are before you even recognize what is really going on. So take a look at the warning signs before it's too late.
Dream Bashers - This is the person who can’t allow others to run with their dreams. They find goal setting to be a waste of time. They will roll their eyes over desires you may have had all your life, not seeing what you see. Worse than that, they aren't interested in seeing your vision for the future unless it is personally tailored around them.
Ego Smashers - This is the type of character that feels if they put you down, it elevates them somehow. They interpret your drive as foolish and will pick apart anything in your life they do not understand and label it as a fault. They are not afraid to publically castrate you in front of friends and co-workers and will often times draw others into their sick cycle with humor as a facade.
Focus Hashers - This is the one who is adept at distraction and often uses disappointment as the tool. They may not have dreams and are happy with business as usual, so they despise those who want more out of life. They will accuse you of being selfish just because you wish to better your life. They will make demands of your time to pull you away from what needs to be done. Their aim is to control your activities so you stay far away from advancement in your personal development. If they can disappoint you they have a sense of accomplishment. When one is being manipulated, it is in the depths of disappointment where these emotional battles are won.
Relationships are not always easy and breezy as we see on the big screen, but when we can connect with someone who is supportive of our dreams, they may be a keeper! When we find one who encourages our thrust for personal growth, stick with them. When we connect with an individual who empowers us to change from better to better, they are worth their weight in gold. Romance involves many things, but it doesn't come with a guide book. The best way to steer clear of the dangerous dates is to keep your head in the game, look for the signals good or bad and proceed with care, confidence and clarity.