I have been reconnecting with some old friends lately and it has made me put some serious thought into friendship in general and how it changes over time. When you are younger, you see your friends all the time, it is almost as though you can't get enough of them, want to see them all the time. Sleepovers, who doesn't miss those? I will not lie to you, I might still have those on occasion. Although as time passes and as I have gotten older, time has changed my friendships. Not necessarily for the worst but they have evolved. We don't speak as often and see each other even less. Does that mean we aren't friends? No, not in the least but as we get older our priorities change and friends are what we try and catch up with in our spare time.
I had this discussion the other day with my best friend, I mentioned that our conversations only revolved around this one particular topic and I said that I didn't really care about it and she agreed. Not that there is anything wrong with what we were talking about but it brought to my mind how relationships are different after a certain point and they need more nurturing. I think technology plays a role in our relationships now. It is easier to send a text message rather than make a phone call. It is easier to send an e-mail rather than a HAND WRITTEN letter to someone. (Although, I am a dork and still do this. I recently even bought some personalized stationary from Etsy, which I am now obsessed with!).
My fear is that I am going to get stuck in a rut with my friendships and let them go dormant. Personally, I rely on my friendships a lot. I need the emotional support from people that I know know ME and have a working knowledge of the integral cogs of my psyche', basically this works to my advantage because I get really great advice from my friends but they can also call me on my crap, which is good because I am definitely the type of person who needs a good kick in the butt every once in awhile.
I guess my point to the article is just a friendly reminder, HEY, CALL YOUR BEST FRIEND! WRITE THEM A LETTER, JUST DO SOMETHING! Nurture your friendships, those are the people that are going to be there for you on your darkest days.
"I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment." Frances Farmer
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