All’s fair in love and war. With that in mind, it’s only right to compile a list for the guys to help steer them around and away from toxic females. (Six Men Women Should Throw Back into the Ocean Quickly). Thanks to the men who offered their two-cents based on their personal experiences.
Everyone wants a happy, healthy relationship, and finding the right person to fit the bill can be like walking a mine field in the middle of a war. Where you stand can either be safe or hazardous to one’s health! So what kind of women should men avoid? According to volunteering male opinions:
The Control Freak. “She wanted to tell me what to do, how to do, and when to do just about everything” said one man. “Everything was her way or the highway.” The relationship did not last. This guy felt emasculated by a woman who tried to lead in every facet of their short time together. The control freak is a result of low self-esteem and insecurity. In both women and men, the control freak fears losing someone so tries to hold on too tightly. The result is the exact opposite of their original intention. Instead of keeping someone close, trying to control that someone drives that person away. Unless the control freak gets a mirror held up to her (his) face, and understands that what she is doing is hurting, not helping, the relationship, she will continue to flit from one guy to the next never finding happiness. The control freak can make life miserable for the one she is trying to control, and in the case of relationships, misery doesn’t love company.
The Manipulator. This gal is de-vi-ous! She plays on his emotions alternately flying from anger to instilling guilt, to being lovey-dovey. She lies, prevaricates, and works any situation to her advantage regardless of how it affects her significant other. The manipulator is very good at making her guy feel sorry for her; enough so that he keeps sticking around even when he doesn’t want to be anywhere near her. He is manipulated into feeling a sense of responsibility for her happiness usually by some sob story about her childhood, family, or mistreatment by a friend or past boyfriend. Men do this, too, make no mistake. But women are far better at emotional manipulation than men. This type of woman can drain a person’s emotional battery so should be avoided at the first sign, the very first whiff of a lie.
Ms. Jealousy: Like the male green-eyed monster, a jealous woman can be hard to live with. Jealousy also springs from insecurity much like the motivation for the control freak. The insecurity leads to an inability to trust him around any other females (and sometimes even his male buddies). She can become clingy, demanding to know where he is and who with at all times. Without trust, there is no good relationship. This relationship is doomed to failure unless Ms. Jealousy can get some help and learn to be confident in her self. A person has to love themselves before anyone else can.
The Princess. Some men love a princess, also known as a diva. It’s all about her 24/7. It’s not that she doesn’t care about her guy, but that she hasn’t taken time away from being all about her self long enough to notice he has needs too. Unless the princess can come down from her pedestal and give a little “royal treatment” now and again to her man, she will find herself all alone in the tower.
So what type of women should men look for? The confident ones; women who are secure within themselves, love themselves, and still love others. Sounds like a hard gem to find? Not so. Just listen to your heart. The heart without doubt is the one to follow.
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M. Gwynn has authored two books, Harvest and The Cat Who Wanted to be a Reindeer on Amazon.com .
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