Having doubts about your man? How do you know when it’s time to kick him to the curb?
According to Giant Comfort, there are all kinds of deal breakers out there, but if you spot one or more of these four red flags, it’s time for him to hit the road.
1. He is not supportive. The modern woman expects a true life partner. Gone are the days of aspiring to take care of a man or putting your needs on the back burner for his. Non-supportive traits include:
• Making fun of or belittling your goals and ambitions in career or life
• Making you feel guilty for spending time at work
• Not helping around the house
• Ignoring you in times of need or distress
If you two talk about it and he still does not get it, dump him.
2. You can’t be yourself around him. Are you playing a character of who you think he wants to be with? Not only does this perpetuate a relationship based on lies (even if it’s just through omission), but it also can be detrimental to your emotional well-being.
If you reveal your true self to someone you’re dating, and he does not appreciate your true colors, dump him.
3. He’s a user. You are not an ATM, a taxi driver, a cell phone provider, hotel or sex machine. A real relationship consists of contributions from both sides — not just emotionally but also financially. If you think he’s taking advantage of your generosity, dump him.
4. He does not get along with your friends and/or family. What would life be without your girlfriends? Any person you are seriously considering dating also will most likely spend time with the people in your life who you care about.
If you find that your new boo and your friends or family are getting into knock-down, drag-out fights, he speaks to them inappropriately or talks about them badly in public, despite your feelings, dump him.
Consider this response from a reader, "Is there anything that we can’t forgive a person for – some things are just harder to forgive than others. But there are things that bring you down as a person and you have to cut yourself loose from in order to be the best you can be, but unforgiveness drags you down. So you have to make the distinction between something that needs forgiving or something you need to cut out of your life."
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