Forgiveness is necessary if you want to move into the New Year in a positive frame of mind. Holding on to resentment, hurt, and anger only serves to harm you emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Whereas you may believe your unforgiveness has a painful effect on the person who has caused you harm, the truth is that the person who harmed you is probably going on with little thought or concern for you.
Let it go. Those past hurts are nothing but baggage that will weigh you down in the coming year.
Forgiving a person does not mean condoning the person’s behavior. Nor does it mean you are giving permission to harm you again. Forgiveness is saying, “You hurt me, but I refuse to allow you to continue to hurt me.”
Forgiveness does not mean that you still have to maintain a relationship with the person who hurt you, although you may find it possible. Forgiveness means that you are letting the past go in a way that it can no longer control your life.
As 2013 ends, make a list of everyone who you have not forgiven. Then make a commitment to forgive them. It is as simple as that. Drop their names into a hat and declare “You are forgiven”. This will be a symbolic way to remember you have forgiven them if old resentments start to creep in.
Let go of unforgiveness and start 2014 in a positive frame of mind.