From the book by the same title "FOREPLAY - the real focus of great sex"
Section I. The Banquet….
What’s the real goal?
When planning a banquet or even a simple meal we don’t usually start thinking about the dessert first, though some with a real sweet tooth may. However, most of us would probably agree that getting the main course coarse entrée right should be priority number one. Then we might think about the appetizers and finally the dessert.
Now let’s think about our sexual banquets the same way. Too many of us think about the dessert or sexual intercourse as the main goal. What this book hopes to get across to you is that the sexual banquet should also have an appetizer, entrée or main dish and finally the dessert. And like the banquet meal we hope to enjoy, it is a successfully enjoyed entrée which is the real goal of our sexual banquet. That main goal is a wildly satisfying and erotic foreplay. And like an extremely satisfying meal, the dessert follows, not as the main goal, but a happy final ending to be followed by a relaxing afterglow.
To make these concepts easier to understand and accept might requires a few simple changes in attitude and realization. First of the attitude changes is that during foreplay the major goal is not preparation for intercourse, rather to achieve not only an orgasm, but as many orgasms as possible and that’s for both partners. Secondly, the main purpose for your foreplay is not your own pleasure but to give your partner the greatest pleasure you can. Third, later in this book you will learn, if you do not already know that both men and women are capable of multiple orgasms and if you’re not already achieving this you’ll learn how. For women multiple orgasm is almost a given, though some women may have difficulty achieving orgasm. If you are among the few who have not achieved orgasm or do so with difficulty, we will hopefully help you remedy that and then go on to be able to have multiple orgasms.
Men, don’t feel cheated … you too can enjoy multiple orgasms, many, many multiple orgasms. You will learn that orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events and you and your partner will learn how to distinguish when orgasm ends and ejaculation begins. Once this is learned you’ll be able to control your orgasms and avoid ejaculation until you and your partner are fully satisfied and let your final orgasm end with ejaculation. Never fear, orgasm without ejaculation is every bit as satisfying as with, but it lets you enjoy the sensation over and over again and again, each subsequent orgasm more intense than the previous. Now isn’t that something to look forward to?
The biggest complaint we hear form women in our practices is, “It’s so frustrating that when he’s finished I’m barely getting turned on!” Once you’ve learned to have multiple orgasms during foreplay, that complaint should never again be a concern of your partner. You’ll be able to go and go and go until your partner’s fully satisfied and you can both relax into the afterglow together.
So let us repeat that the path to great and successful sex is to change your true focus from intercourse to loving, arousing, erotic and satisfying prolonged foreplay. That foreplay should bring both you and your partner to grand and multiple orgasms. It’s then and only then that you and your partner should be ready to cap off your sexual banquet with the dessert which is intercourse. Remember also that is your responsibility to give your partner the most pleasurable sexual experience he or she can achieve. If you’re successful you’ll find out that his or her excitement and gratification will bring you to the most satisfying experience you can have. Your true success as a super lover is measured by your partner’s joy, not your own.
When we refer to your partner in this book, it matters not if you are lesbian, gay, straight or bisexual. Whatever your relationship or relationships may be, the rules and goals are the same.
When you and your partner have finished this book you’ll both understand that great foreplay is what successful and great sex is all about and that intercourse is only a fine desert to top off a great banquet and if the banquet entrée is filling enough, you might not even miss not having dessert.
So enough with the promises, let’s get on with the show.
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