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For Valentine’s Day, hire a private eye if you think you have a cheating mate

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If your mate is cheating on you and you want proof that he or she is having an affair, hire a private eye for Valentine’s Day.

This is one of the few times that a reputable private investigator is almost guaranteed to catch the cheater with his or her lover, and deliver the proof you need. See Why Valentine’s Day is the Best Time of Year to Catch Your Cheating Mate.

Private Eyes Rarely Recommended Except around Valentine’s Day

As an infidelity expert, frequently called on by the media to discuss popular infidelity issues in the news, men and women contact me almost daily, seeking information and advice on cheating mates. Many of these people have invested large sums of money on private investigators, hoping to get evidence of infidelity, only to end up with nothing to show for the all money they spent.

If your mate is cheating, no matter what kind of affair it is (sexual, emotional, online, workplace, same-sex) or how long the affair has been going on, a good infidelity reference book like Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs will tell you everything you need to know.

That’s why I rarely recommend the use of private investigators to catch cheating mates, except around Valentine’s Day.

Why Valentine’s Day is an Exception to the Rule

Valentine’s Day is one of the rare exceptions I make for infidelity victims who want solid proof of a cheating mate.

This is one of the few times I recommend using a private investigator, because if your spouse or significant other is cheating, during the “Valentine season” you’re almost guaranteed to get results.

The time period between Feb.13 and Feb.15 presents a unique window of opportunity. Cheaters everywhere usually meet their secret lovers during this time period to give or receive the traditional Valentine’s Day gift. See Why Valentine’s Day is the Best Time of Year to Catch Your Cheating Mate.

This is the most cost effective time of year to hire a private investigator to get proof of a cheating mate. And you’ll maximum results for minimum expense. You can keep your costs down because instead of paying for weeks or months of surveillance, you’ll only need to pay for 3 days or less.

If a cheating man wants to stay in his mistress’s good graces as well as her bed, he has to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift. And in most cases, he’ll arrange to deliver it to her himself.

A cheating wife or girlfriend has to set aside time to personally receive her secret lover’s Valentine’s Day gift.

This greatly increases the likelihood of catching a cheating mate “in the act.”

Book Early if You’re Hiring a Private Eye

If you plan to hire a private investigator for Valentine’s Day, book early. Most investigators who specialize in infidelity investigations say Valentine’s week is their busiest time of the year.

You can further reduce the cost of your investigation to hours rather than days, if you can pinpoint the time when the cheaters are most likely to meet.

Will it be lunch time, before work, after work, late at night when the cheater thinks you’re asleep? If you suspect infidelity, or already know your mate is cheating but just want tangible proof, you probably already have a good idea when that might be.

If You Can’t Afford a Private Eye

If you can’t afford, or prefer not to hire a private investigator for fees of $75 to $100 an hour or more there’s $37 dollar alternative that will work almost as well. A good infidelity reference book, Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (written by me) will help you get the all proof you need. It documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook.

Many private investigators use this book themselves, and recommend it to clients who can’t afford their rates. It’s even used in 2 training programs and a university level refresher course for detectives specializing in infidelity investigation. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men.

The e-book version is available from for $37.

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Ruth Houston is a New York-based journalist and infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on celebrity infidelity, high profile infidelity court cases, and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of, the author of the popular infidelity reference book, Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and writes an infidelity advice column and a celebrity infidelity column for Ruth also conducts infidelity seminars and does individual infidelity consultations, as well as cruise ship lectures on celebrity scandals and other lifestyle topics. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail