It seems that when our families are struggling and our children are a little out of sorts there is usually a problem at the head of the house. First, no one is at all saying that all the stressors in a family are always the fault of the man of the house. After all we cannot always predict what stressors are headed our way. Unless, of course, the stressors are directly related to the man of the house.
We also all know what the absence of him does to a family. It is Christmas time and there will be many families struggling because there is a spiritual battle, one where there is no dad present, one where children see others playing with their dads. This leaves a quiet, silent scar that might be the first stone of what might become one of many walls for this child. Even in his absence he is affecting a family spiritually.
We all know that there are several reasons for dad, husband to not be around this Christmas. Maybe he is in the service or has to be gone on business; we have to just make sure the children understand that and husband, check on that stressed out wife on a regular bases. That could make all the difference for her. This is not meant to make those husbands feel guilty.
We’re talking in general about how husbands play a big part in how families perceive the holidays or any day based of the influences of the man of the house. Who’s leading your family? If you are a husband or father, then I hope you say it’s you. Among the most important is the role of husbands and fathers in leading their families to serve God. While this is certainly mandated by God (Eph. 5:25-33, 6:4; Col. 3:21; 1 Pet. 3:7), it is also taught in the examples of men like Abraham, Joshua and Cornelius. Abraham led his family to a new land because God directed him to do so.
More than ever, families are desperate for spiritual leadership. And that starts with you, the husband and father. Are you equipped and ready to assume the role and responsibility God has for you? Being God’s man in leading a family will help you accept your calling and experience God’s blessing as the spiritual leader to your wife and children. Maybe you’re not bible a reader, maybe you’re not a God fearing man but that leaves the question…what tools are you using to lead your family.
Do your draw from bag of tools that harbor anger, resentment, maybe addiction? Is your family actually resenting Christmas Day because of fear of a character flaw you have. Let’s say you don’t have any major character flaw and you’re just a scrooge at Christmas time. This will still make it difficult for your family to enjoy the holiday. As the spiritual head of the house, good or bad that’s what you are, you set the stage for the behaviors around you, like a ripple effect.
You see, you don’t have to believe in God or go to church to have a spiritual effect on your family. Your negative vibe manifests more negative vibe. Which means that your loving, cheerful spirit on Christmas day…or any day may just be all the gift they need. The gift of a loving, caring father and husband can raise the spirit in a household like no other gift.
When your wife or children become excited over a gift try acting like a joyful giver and be just as excited as they are. Avoid say things like, don’t break the thing today, or do you have any idea what that cost me? You will single handedly suck the life out of that gift and the joy out of that wife or child. Remember Dad, whether you intended to be or didn’t want to be, whether you believe in God or not, believe in spirituality or not, you are the spiritual leader.