The scene is all too familiar. You are dealing with a guy that seems perfect for you on paper. He has the good looks, the charm, a good job, and maybe even great sex. He'd be a great guy to bring home to mom and dad. Everything is perfect......except that nothing is. This guy is emotionally unavailable, but you can't seem to let him go. Maybe it's because you fear the loneliness that will come afterwards. Maybe it's because you feel that having a piece of a man is better than having no man at all to spend time with. So you hang on to what you can get out of this guy, and vow to ride it until the wheels fall off. Here are just a few signs that you would be better off moving on and finding someone that appreciates and respects you more.
When you're always talking about how things used to be. It's easy to stay fixated on someone based off of how they treated you in the beginning of the relationship. Everyone is usually on their best behavior, and a lot of people even go above and beyond to make sure they solidify what they're going after. If you find yourself thinking back to the qualities he no longer possesses, it may be time to make moves.
When the relationship brings you more stress and headaches than happiness. While the world has turned into a social network-fueled place where everyone brags excessively about their partners, many of these people conveniently leave out the stress and headaches that sometimes come with the territory. If being with someone means constantly having to defend yourself or your partner to others, having to justify behavior and decisions in fear of embarrassment, or just dealing with a lot of bickering, it may be time to reevaluate what makes you want this person in the first place.
When the effort you put in is not being reciprocated. It may seem like common sense, but you'd be surprised how many people deal with lack of reciprocity on a daily basis but still hang on to the person they're dating. If you are making most or all of the effort to keep the relationship you have with your partner afloat, it may not be worth the time and effort you're putting in. If they are not meeting you halfway with doing what is needed for a healthy situation, why waste time trying your hardest to keep that person happy? One sided relationships are never healthy, and never fulfilling, no matter how much people try to pretend that they are. If you find yourself justifying why your partner doesn't do certain things, not just to others but to yourself as well, take a step back and get back familiar with loving yourself. Know your own worth, and you will no longer tolerate partial attempts at happiness.
When you want something different than your partner wants. You may not admit it to your partner for fear that you may push them away or turn them off, but you want something more. That "more" may be more than just a physical relationship. It may be a title, kids, or even marriage. Whatever it is, you want more of it, and he has made it clear (whether through words or his behavior) that he's not with that idea. If you aren't on the same page about what you want for the future, there is no point in continuing to waste your time with that person. Sure, there are people out there that convinced their partners to get into relationships and marriages, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they've tamed the cheating ways or other undesirable qualities. Just because you can manipulate someone into doing what you want, does not mean they they want to do it, nor does it mean they will act right while doing it. Avoid this headache by moving on when you find out you two aren't on the same page.
When he's hurting you, whether emotionally, physically,verbally, or financially. Any form of abuse is wrong, and should be grounds for termination of the relationship. Your self respect should deter you from engaging in anything that will hurt you. If you find yourself with someone that doesn't seem to care about hurting your feelings, putting his hands on you, using up your money instead of making his own, it's best to book it out of the situation fast before things get serious. You don't want someone in your life that will hurt you more than enhance and make you happy.