So, you think you’ve found that special somebody, the answer to all your prayers….but now what? The last thing you want is to make a relationship blunder that you’ll live to regret. Love can make you do crazy things, but these are five mistakes you have to avoid if you want to go from hello to “I do” without drama or regrets!
1. Going too fast
Don’t rush things! Every new romance feels great at first, that doesn’t mean you’re destined to grow old together. Give your brain a chance to catch up to your hormones. Don’t spend every waking moment together, text fifty times a day, or rush into intimacy. Instead, give each other space and see if you still feel all giddy and in love!
2. Don’t lie about the small stuff
It might be fine to lie about your weight on your driver’s license, but don’t get off on the wrong foot when entering a new relationship. If you really hate Star Wars or can’t stand hiking, say so! Lying about the small stuff means your new love interest isn’t really getting to know you. It’ll all come out eventually, which could cause problems down the road.
3. Don’t ditch your friends or family
Being in love sometimes leads one to ignore their family and friends. After all, you have this new relationship to nurture. But, don’t let your new squeeze consume all of your time or pull you away from your support network. That network can provide perspective for you and prevent you from getting too wrapped up to see things clearly.
4. Don’t ignore warning signs
A new relationship can make us all a little blind, which isn’t always a bad thing. You don’t want to dump a great person because they’re a little quirky, so it’s okay to overlook the small things. But, don’t ignore controlling, possessive, secretive or jealous behavior just because you’re really into somebody. These are character flaws that will only complicate your life.
5. Don’t gush to friends and family
It is natural to tell your friends and loved ones about the new person in your life. What you want to avoid is gushing about them, proclaiming your undying love or rambling on about how great they are. If you build them up too much, and it turns out that you’re wrong, you might be too embarrassed to break it off when needed.
So, the next time you’re feeling head-over-hills for that special somebody, take a minute and do a reality check. Be honest about your feelings, fears and don’t fall into old, unhealthy relationship patterns. Keep these five mistakes in mind so you can avoid making them on your way to relationship bliss!