There are five key elements to a successful relationship. They are as follows: communication, trust, intimacy, financial acumen, and hard work. This is a five part series and I will first be exploring communication.
No relationship, especially a romantic one, can survive without effective communication. Now this doesn’t mean the occasional text message or bbm, I’m talking about actual conversation. A lot of relationships fail because women aren’t aware of how to effectively communicate with their partners. Getting to know someone doesn’t take place in the bedroom ladies. It consists of being courted by a gentlemen and yes I said courted. That’s what a suitor does when he is trying to turn a woman into a potential girlfriend.
Ask questions, listen to answers and get to know each other in various settings. Attend the movies, sports events, museums, festivals, and the like in order to feel each other out. And use this time to speak to the man. Address concerns, express likes and acknowledge turn offs. Don’t be afraid to state who you are and what your expectations are for a relationship. Sometimes women are afraid of telling a man what they want in fear of running him off. But know that if you lower or hide your standards, then you are only hurting yourself. As long as you set reasonable expectations, don’t be afraid to communicate them.
Being able to converse with a person is one thing, but talking to someone effectively is a completely different story. As a society, we have become so addicted to technology that we lack the time and effort to write a letter or make a phone call. A simple text message or wall posting on facebook is so much more convenient; however, communicating easier doesn’t necessarily make it better.
But there is hope for those who wish to learn to connect with their partners better. Dr. David Phillips of Atlanta Psychology offers premarital, marriage and individual counseling. Whether you’re married, close to walking down the aisle or single, this practice can definitely help you to learn how to communicate more effectively.