This past week I’ve been talking to some of my girlfriends about their first date experiences. I was amazed by what men expected of them.
According to more than one, meeting for coffee is implied interest and consent for sex. Immediately following the coffee!
I really did wonder the first time or two I heard this if my friends were somehow leading the guys on or giving them the wrong impression. But it has been a prevalent enough occurrence that I doubt this was the case.
So I ask you lady readers, is this something that happens on a regular basis? I understand you’re going to get hit on by a bunch of disgusting dudes, but they should be pretty easy to weed out up front. Asking for your dirty panties in the first couple emails should tip you off not to arrange a coffee date!One friend had been emailing a guy for a bit without the pervy trying-to-take-it-sexual-almost-immediately routine. They agreed to meet for coffee in a public place and while the meeting went ok, there was no chemistry towards him. He asked (more or less insisted) that she come back to his place and when she declined he got quite pissed and stormed off as if her agreeing to coffee was an open invitation to the Horizontal Mamba.
Another friend had gone out with a guy twice and they agreed to meet directly after work at his place since they were going to freshen up for a night out. He offered her the guest bedroom where she could take a shower, etc. In the middle of her shower he strolled into her bathroom naked as a jaybird and was dumbfounded when she hurriedly got dressed and left. And she was actually starting to get physically attracted to this guy! They’d kissed and done a bit of groping but there had been no real buildup to where there was obviously going to be sex that night. Apparently he thought the ‘3rd Date Rule’ was ironclad…
In order to learn more about this topic I would enjoy hearing about your classically bad dates! You can share as much or as little detail as you like. Guys, feel free to share yours too. I’ll try to post a fair and balanced cross section of what I receive.