Have you ever wondered what quirks, traits, and idiosyncracies would turn a potential date off of you before you even had a chance at a first date?
The lovely ladies and genteel gentlemen of San Antonio were polled on this very subject. Below, you'll find a list of what they had to say about first impression turn offs that will leave you ....dateless in San Antonio!
The Guys -
1. Talking - too much or not enough. Yes! There is a fine line to walk when conversation is at stake. Examiner and local single man on the move, Jack Dennis, shares carrying the load of the conversation can be tough. In addition "talking about ex-boyfriends or husbands in the first few dates" can be a real turn off.
2. Hygiene - While this isn't always a strong point for men, personally, when it comes to a potential mate, hygiene is very important! The men include body odor, choice of clothing (clean and pressed preferred over wrinkled and dirty), clean teeth, and freshness of breath.
3. Manners - It amazes me that men, famous for burping, farting, and nose-picking at inappropriate moments would cite these very things as complete turn-offs when it comes to dating the opposite sex. Most women manage to control themselves when it comes to public decompression and nose-picking, but for those who don't, try! If a guy sees you tickling your brain via your nostrils, or witnesses you reciting your A, B, Cs in one humongous burp, he won't ask you out! Also on the 'manners' list is rudeness, mistreatment of animals, and mistreatment of children.
The Ladies -
1. Fashion - High on the list for the ladies is how a man dresses. Local hottie Monique H. (and single!) says saggy pants are a deal breaker! "I don't care what he looks like, if a man approaches me with saggy-ass pants, I'm done with him! I don't, for the life of me, understand WHY grown men with grown bills try so hard to dress like my 19 y/o nephew. It's not cute!" Also included in the 'fashion' category are gold teeth (grills), bad haircuts, and wearing sneakers with everything, especially when the man is fully grown and no longer a teenager.
2. Smoking - All the women polled cited smoking as a deal breaker. Seems like the trend in America towards healthier living has really sunk in...or it could be that smokers generally have bad breath and smelly clothing. Tobacco chewers were included in this section by Monique who said "between som'r teeth (men with some teeth missing) and chew, eventually, he'll want to touch mouths with her, and neither habit is acceptable.
3. Manners - For women, manners include opening doors and holding a ladies chair out for her. It also includes paying for the date if the man asked the woman out, having his own car to provide transportation to the date, and seeing her home. It went without saying that burping, farting, scratching, and nose-picking would end the date before it could begin. Also high on the list was cussing. Using curse words, according to Liz G., "shows a lack of maturity, education, and respect. I mean, would he kiss his momma with that mouth?"
4. Political Affiliation - Surprisingly, several of the ladies said they wouldn't date a man from a political party affiliation different from her own. Becky Alizadeh (Examiner and single mom) shared "Republican! No way!" Seems that when women are gauging men for the long term, similar views on politics and the world must also be in sync.
5. Education - Intelligence and a certain amount of education is on the hit-and-miss list for women when it comes to dating. The amount of education expected is different for each individual gal, but all seem to consider 'smarts' as desirable in a mate. Kat M. said "men being stupid is not a habit I can overlook".
As you can see, the women have more hurdles for a man to clear before consenting to a date than the men do! Not surprising at all since men already have to overcome the extreme fear of being rejected when approaching a woman and asking her out.
Hopefully, this list will help all single men and women prepare for the brutality of the singles scene! What's on your deal breaker list?
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