One would think that marriage has replaced dating with so many people ending one relationship, meeting someone else and within months marrying that person. Everywhere you turn people are getting married, which is not to say this is always a bad thing. The issue is these relationships are barely lasting past a year.
Why are these relationships fizzling out so fast? One reason these relationships aren’t lasting is couples aren’t taking the necessary time to get to know each other. I mean how can you get to know someone when after a few months of dating you are engaged and planning a wedding? There is a natural order to everything in life, steps you should take to try an ensure things flow smoothly, dating is not an exception to that flow.
Before you decide to marry someone you should know the answers to pertinent questions like, how many children you want to have if you plan on having any, where do you want to live, who has the best money managing skills, what are the credit issues, what religion if any will you practice?
The best thing about dating is it gives you an opportunity to get to know each other. You are learning your mate’s likes and dislikes how they react to certain situations, how they argue and if you can handle the little quirks that everyone has. Dating should be about exploring one another and having fun while doing it.
Now after reading this you will hear some couples say they know someone who dated for a week and got married and lived happily ever after or maybe you are that couple that met and then got married quickly. You will also hear the stories about people who dated for years, got married and ended up divorced. There are always exceptions to the rules however for the rest of us mere mortals, it would be best to date for a while before deciding to get married for the first or second or for some third time.
The bigger question is what’s the rush? Now I could see if you found yourself in a 1950’s shotgun wedding situation because you find out that ooops the girl you barely know is pregnant. Then I guess in some strange way I can possibly see you running down the aisle quickly before the family decides to get a rope.
But for someone just getting out of one relationship why would you even consider jumping into yet another one. Oh wait I forgot, people are afraid of being by themselves so they jump start relationship and put them on the fast track to crazy marriage world.
What you may want to do is slow down and possibly work on yourself first or get married quickly and then get an even quicker divorce later. The choice is yours.
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