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Finding our Song (a message to baby boomers)

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How old are we really when we find our song in life? Once we find it, can we loose it? Can we have more than one Song?

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Growing up I remember being in the car with my parents and asking them to turn on the radio from the backseat. I would request a station and then when the song came on if I liked it I would want it to stay on and if I did not I wanted them to change the station to another trendy spot. Out of all the songs I remember there was certain melodies in the songs of the day that superseded the lyrics. They inspired me and although too young to realize how, I knew how to identify “my song”. Yes, out of all the songs I liked there was always “the” song.

The song I refer to in this writing is only conceptually the same. It is a metaphor for not only our passion in life but also the one thing that stirs the passion in us. It is wonderful to find our passion but without something to stir it with all of life’s challenges can fizzle out. I have met many people along the way thus far that really have identified their passion but they are no longer inspired toward it. Something has happened in their life and although they thought they knew they did not want to do anything else in life, they now find themselves questioning their very own passion. Along with this comes the negative eye that seems to focus on others song. If you are 20 years old this is no big thing and seems to be part of life however, if you our “baby boomer”, not so fun.

WHEN YOUR SIZZLE IS FIZZLED
Perhaps you have worked since you were very young but now find yourself a major part of the recession. Standing in a free clinic without the proper medical benefits because what you do have requires to great of a deductible for you. And/or you are standing in the unemployment line hoping you can extend those benefits. You have looked for jobs but this new method of applying online leaves you no way to sell your “young at heart experienced self” hence, no one responds. Maybe, you have a primo retirement package but you find yourself hesitating to retire because you loosing the structure you have had for years is scary and if you do this, the reflection on your life will be too much to handle without something defined to do.

The scenarios continue with busy Adult children and very possibly (now) children for parents. These things all though not the end of the world, can fizzle your sizzle. You find yourself waking up in the mornings wishing you could find “your song” again. The caution sign is blinking, you do have a choice. Do you get on the ride that takes you on a downward spin at a speed you cannot control or do you refuse to get on it no matter how you feel? The first thing we must remember is this; we make strong advocates for what is right because we have lived long enough to know the difference between what is a popular right or what is an authentic right. We have experienced enough in life to know how to appreciate the people in our lives and to realize that people are simply that, people. We know that transformation has to be on the inside first and therefore we find ourselves looking at things from the inside out. We have the ability to impart wisdom but we find that there are not as many listening as there were before and surprisingly instead of getting upset, we land at the place of recognition which makes us ponder all the more. Our sizzle is fizzled and we need to find our song again.

WE CANNOT PLEASE EVERYONE

Ed Sheeran said: (British singer and songwriter) “I can't tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” The first thing we must realize is that we cannot please everyone. There will always be an opposing view and there will always be someone that rains on your parade. If we try and please everyone in our family, our friends and those we have worked with we could very well find ourselves just doing this for the rest of our life and worse, never achieving our goal to do so. It Is important to be sensitive to one another and care about each other but not to allow an array of counsel to confuse us into thinking we must get approval from them all. “It will never happen”.

DO NOT STAY STILL TOO LONG
Rodolfo Costa, (Advice My Parents Gave Me: and Other Lessons I Learned from My Mistakes) said: “Do not sit still; start moving now. In the beginning, you may not go in the direction you want, but as long as you are moving, you are creating alternatives and possibilities.”

Never stop creating alternatives and possibilities. It is these two things that begin the melody inside of you that will cause your passion to sizzle once again. Your mind must be stimulated and that which is stimulated must be animated. There are different ways for us to create alternatives to our situation, find them. Once we have done this, then the possibilities begin to sing inside of us. Do not allow yourself to remain stagnant. It is crucial you move forward if not physically, mentally and emotionally. Winston Churchill once said: “If you're going through hell, keep going”. Do not get stuck in Hell.

BE POSITIVE
“If you always attach positive emotions to the things you want, and never attach negative emotions to the things you don't, then that which you desire most will invariably come your way.” Matt D. Miller (Author)

Envision yourself holding a bag of positive energy and a bag of negative energy. Once you have identified your goal and/or your desire, ask yourself which bag you will attach to it. Human energy is a very real thing and if we do not use it wisely we will fail because we never had a chance in the first place. You have the ability to attach positive energy to your life, your goals and for those around you. Resolve yourself to BE POSITIVE.

HONEST QUESTIONS
Solomon Ibn Gabirol ben, Philosopher said: “A wise man's question contains half the answer.” Do not be afraid to question yourself whether it is for some things in your past or for some goals you have not accomplished. A person that is wise finds answers in their questions. Pay close attention to your questions about your life and future. Edmund Hillary said: “It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves”.

GET UP AGAIN AND AGAIN
Fall seven times, stand up eight. (Japanese Proverb) do not ever stop getting up again. Never let yourself stay down. Whether this is emotional, mental, spiritually, or physically. Flavia Weedn, Flavia and the Dream Maker Fight said“ If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again”. Fight even yourself if you have to and “Get up again”.

FIND YOUR SONG

What do you truly believe is your passion and inspiration for that passion? You cannot please everyone so reflect, get it back and move forward, learn to be positive and ask your self honest questions and in doing so you will hear at least half of your answer. When the going gets tough and you seem to have stumbled and fall, don’t stay down there longer than you have to. GET UP AND KEEP GETTING UP.

How old are we really when we find our song in life? This we really cannot answer and it very possibly could just be whenever we find ourselves. Once we find it, can we loose it? It is not lost but it is the fizzle in your sizzle that has gotten you down. Your song and rhythm is inside of you. Can we have more than one Song? Yes I believe so especially in different seasons of our life.

IT IS WHAT IT IS
Albert Einstein said: “A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be. “ Deal with the “is” and move forward with what could be.

In the end more than becoming a person of success is to become a person of value. (Thought from Albert Einstein) Be encouraged to day and do not leave this life without getting what is yours to get. Find your song within you and then sing!

LEARN TO COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS AND NOT YOU’RE PROBLEMS
Thank G-d and Life itself for what you have. Breathing is not living. Learn to live.