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Finding love in an assisted living complex or skilled nursing home

A nursing home can be just the place for two people to meet, fall in love, and marry, no matter how severe their disability may be. See the uTube video, Seniors find love, marriage at Plymouth nursing home - YouTube. Also see, Elderly Married Couples Don't Let Nursing Homes Keep Them Apart.

Sometimes, a nursing home can be a place for one patient to find love and marriage with another patient. This may be true whether the spouse visits or not. Some people never get any visits from relatives when they are in a nursing home.

It's never too late. Many marriage makers, parents, family members, counselors, and various couple matchers often warn one person or another that unless they change their approach to finding a mate, that they'll end up alone in a nursing home with nobody to love them. That isn't always true. Sometimes the nursing home can be the one place a person finds true love and marriage. How many weddings are taking place in nursing homes?

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In spite of the season outbreaks of norovirus in assisted living and skilled nursing facilities, horror stories of nursing home employees stealing from or beating older people or neglecting them and injecting them with fatal drugs, or simple neglect resulting in bed sores or falls, for some nursing home patients, life changes of residences can also mean finding a new spouse at a nursing home party or a senior center dance. It's an individual happening.

See the article, John and Sandra Day O'Connor Marriage Profile. According to the article, on  11/11/2009: John Jay O'Connor III died at the age of 79. Two years before, on 11/14/2007: Retired Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor and her children began to bring more awareness to the impact of Alzheimer's Disease on marriage by not hiding John O'Connor's new found love at an assisted living facility.

On 07/01/2005: Citing her age and the need to spend more time with her ailing husband, John, and with her family, Justice Sandra Day O'Connor announced her retirement from the Supreme Court on July 1, 2005. News reports mention a trend of finding love in a skilled nursing home or assisted living complex, and for some, a new spouse or one's closest golden years relationship.

Basically, after her husband went to live in a nursing home as an Alzheimer's disease patient, he met a new love, another woman with Alzheimers in the nursing home. The couple divorced, and the ex-husband then and married his new love, another nursing home patient.

And sometimes it ends in tragedy. See, Gunshot to head ends 70 years of marriage - US news - Crime. Not all seniors in nursing homes suffer from anger issues and elder rage as part of dementia. Some are physically incapacitated but mentally keen. Others are just aged and need assisted living.

Then again, it's no surprise about the number of weddings that take place in nursing homes. See, Nursing home wedding - ABC Hobart - Australian Broadcasting. Perhaps it depends on how the seniors area treated, the activities, and what type of nursing home they can afford.

Some marriages of young people take place in a nursing home so the older relative can be at the wedding. See, Unique nuptials at nursing home wedding reception at Othellos.

You don't even need a man and a woman to get married when older people or individuals who have disabilities reside in nursing homes and find friends there--friends who turn out to be the one, last true love. Same sex marriages exist. See, Never Too Late: Aging Lesbians Marry In Nursing Home - Topix.

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