I was listening to my radio in my truck when I heard this old classic tune play on the radio:
“I was looking for love in all the wrong places
Looking for love in too many faces
Searching their eyes looking for traces of
What I'm dreaming of hoping to find a friend and a lover
I'll bless the day I discover another heart, looking for love.”
I thought how it was a great tune back in the good old days and how even now, the lyrics apply to men and women looking for love still today.
Many people look for love for all the wrong reasons. They might look for new relationships to replace someone they have divorced or separated from. Unfortunately, many of those are doomed from the start. I see many folks who come into my office that have been hurt from rushing into a new relationship and now with they would have waited.
Some people look for love in sugar daddies, cars, houses, and even for looks. My friends, if you’re looking for love, you may be waiting a long time. You need to be healthy before you get into another long term relationship.
What is it that you want in your love relationships? Do you need honesty, integrity, values, someone who can make you laugh? I think the real secret is when you are ready to meet the love of your life you need to be open-minded and honest in what you must have to feel safe and enjoy healthy relationship. Some people settle for second best. I advise against doing that. Second best will only cause you heartaches and despair.
Case in point, I was working with a woman with who longed to be married. She was what some call a “meat hunter” (looking for a man) and went to great lengths to find one. She signed up for Match.com and Christian Mingle and had her friends looking for her as well. She went on some less-than-desirable dates then tried the bar scene. Ultimately, it all backfired on her. She finally met someone while shopping at her local grocery store and married him after dating for over a year. They are happily married to this day. She found the love of her life in the coffee isle!
When looking for love, look in the places that you know and trust. Social gatherings, your local church, social clubs and singles groups are a good place to start. I'm sure you have other places you can find good, healthy single people. If you need some ideas on how meet the right kind of people, contact Dr. Mike. He can help you!