Many of us play the lottery. We dream of winning. We feel as if all our problems would be solved. A few do win. Surprisingly, some of those lucky few quickly lose it all. Blogger Hanna gave the scoop on some of those stories.
Here’s some folk wisdom from a few of the responses to her blog:
• Those who have money troubles after winning, often had them before. The lottery only magnifies the problems, it does not cause them.
• Inner problems can't be solved with money.
• People treat money based on the effort needed to get it, and when no effort is spent at all … people just don't respect it. When sweat is spent obtaining money, the respect is there.
• Integrity, honesty, self discipline, thrift, compassion, forgiveness, and service are not merely words. They are spiritual principles that must be practiced as a way of life if one is to find any serenity and peace.
• "If you can't be happy without it, you can't be happy with it"
The analogy for relationships should be obvious. Those of us who haven’t yet found a good fit in a mate, would love to. We feel as if all our problems would be solved. A few of us do stumble upon someone who has a surprisingly delightful compatibility and mutually-felt chemistry. As with the lottery outcomes, many of the lucky few lose that in a surprisingly short time, not because they weren’t compatible but simply because one or both didn’t know how to maintain a satisfying relationship. All of the above folk wisdom applies also to relationships. You can’t earn love; it’s a gift. But you do have to earn—that is, to work for and practice—the capacity to give it and to let it in fully. In the end you may ask yourself if a glimpse of greener grass is a valid reason to call it quits. Are you unrealistically expecting one person to be everything? Is it possible that some needs can be met by others in your life, such as friends and family? Do you want to keep the other from leaving because he or she is meeting important needs, but you’re not focused on giving the other a sense of being cared for and cherished? You may ask yourself whether creating a fulfilling relationship with anyone—your present relationship included—really requires some changes in yourself, not a lottery win.