Financial domination is not was it appears to be.
A man wanting to give money to a woman for no other reason than for her to spend it and humiliate him…..
Some men that want to be dominated in this way my not understand it themselves or what they are truly seeking. As a clinical sexologist and counselor, writer/researcher, this is a topic that has intrigued me for many years. Having counseled men in this situation, I have come to a better understanding of what some of the defining factors may be that drive some of these men to do this.
An example of this would be: A dom that controls her subs funds but always has his safety in mind, knowing how much it will cost for him to live, eat, and how she feels he should spend it. She takes away all the pressure from him so he does not have to make any decisions for himself. There may be times where she feels he is slacking and wants to discipline him so she may take a privilege away from him or demand that he should be humiliated in some way that pleases her. It is at her discretion as to how she will control him. She may insist that he pay for her to have lavish meals for a week while he only gets to eat dog food, but she will also be understanding that in this punishment it will not hurt him or keep him from making money at work, in fact it may inspire him to do better. There is always a trust that she will not permanently hurt or harm him that is unspoken, but a fear none the less that she may.
The problem for most men who want to be financially dominated is seeking out the right person to dominate them.
In many ways this man is looking for a form of love or unconditional love, “If I let you take complete control over me, you will take care of me”…..there is a deep psychological component that gets lost in this very real fetish. A true partnership of this kind can only really be beneficial to both the sub and the dom if there is a relationship that is based on respect and responsibly of the dom. It is her duty to take care of her sub, understand his nature and control him for her pleasure which becomes his pleasure.
In the truest form he becomes her pet, but one that she also grows to rely on (dependence) which ultimately is what I believe is at the core of this fetish. He is beneath her, below her, but he is hers…..a connection like that of a parent/child, yet he is not deserving of her as his parent so the punishment associated with it along with her pleasure as “the focus” will always be at his expense or his financial expense.