Poor performance at school may mean that the child has an average rating of B, C or D or if the kid will have to experience grade retention. This is a pure example that evaluation of school performance can be subjective and parents as well as any other people involved in working with kids have different expectations. They all have their own criteria and based on those criteria they judge if one kid is successful or not. This is why many people have different reactions once they found out the results of their kid’s performance. Some people tend to criticize kids when they get grade C but they also make additional comments when the kid gets an A on some exam – they often say that the exam was easy. In these families, children grow with a constant feeling of distrust from their parents and they feel they can’t get the necessary recognition from their parents.
This type of parents looks like they are more worried about the reaction of the people close to them than the reaction of their kid. They think that they have chosen the right path in their life and they want their children to the same and be even better. Unfortunately, these parents can’t synch their own goals with the kid’s capability. They put pressure on their kids with big expectations and demands and they don’t accept any other results than the best ones. If any parent doesn’t accept and evaluate their kid taking his personality into consideration and they base their estimation on his performance, the kid can easily develop anxiety, anorexia, stress and even depression.
People that really want to help kids do better at school accept their personality and individuality through developing their self-esteem and motivation. These things can be achieved through constant use of some of the following messages – I believe in you, I know you can do it, I am here for you, you are very important to me, it is important to try etc. These messages can be delivered in many ways and they can work only if they are sincere. Kids certainly know if they are sincere and honest.
The parents should guide their children in fields where they have abilities, in tasks in which they show competence and maturity and never in fields of parental expectations or above the child’s abilities. Parents should always show interest and respect in what their kids are doing even when they think that’s irrelevant. A good parent will motivate, inspire and encourage the child to develop gradually and will never push him in order to be perfect.
Furthermore, there are few things that can improve the results of kids at school and they don’t require much effort. Parents need to care of the working environment. School tasks and homework should always be completed in the kid’s room on his own table. If the kid doesn’t have his own room, the TV should be off as well as the computer. Wherever the kid studies he always need to be close to his working materials – pens, notes, books etc.
Kids and parents can also make a daily schedule for every day of the week. It is better to study, eat and have free time in certain periods of the day. The parents should be ready to check their kid’s homework and check their knowledge once in a while.
If the parents decide to help their children with some lesson that is difficult, it is always a good idea to read something about the topic or even consult with the teacher because the information needs to be accurate.
If none of the advice and tips you find and apply don’t help and your kid continues with his poor performance at school maybe he or she has some learning difficulties. In this case you should consult a psychologist or a social pedagogue.