An Edmonton mother of five decided to head out onto the beach and enjoy herself in the sun for a while, but her day didn't turn out quite as planned. CTV News Edmonton reported on Aug. 1, 2014, said that 33-year-old Tanis Jex-Blake went to an Alberta Beach wearing her bikini, but she was heckled and mocked by a group of young people for how she looked.
For the first time in 13 years, Jex-Blake decided to wear a bikini and enjoy the summer sun. Unfortunately, a group of young people decided to mock her for the stretch marks on her skin. Her stomach shows the signs of having children, but she has no issues with it. Why should they?
Jex-Blake weighs in at just about 125 pounds, and simply wanted to enjoy the beach. Why shouldn't she be able to wear a bikini if she wants to? She's not going to let anyone tell her she can't. After the day, she posted a pic of herself in a bikini on Facebook and relayed this message:
This is an open letter to the 2 guys and 1 girl who decided to skip work today in Sherwood Park where they were building a house, but instead decided to come to Alberta Beach to relax in the sun, enjoy the water and some beers.
I’m sorry if my first attempt at sun tanning in a bikini in public in 13 years “grossed you out”. I’m sorry that my stomach isn’t flat and tight. I’m sorry that my belly is covered in stretch marks. I’m NOT sorry that my body has housed, grown, protected, birthed and nurtured FIVE fabulous, healthy, intelligent and wonderful human beings. I’m sorry if my 33 year old, 125 lb body offended you so much that you felt that pointing, laughing, and pretending to kick me. But I’ll have you know that as I looked at your ‘perfect’ young bodies, I could only think to myself “what great and amazing feat has YOUR body done?”.
As expected, it got to Tanis Jex-Blake, and that's understandable. She's a human being and has a heart and feelings. Their words hurt her, but she wasn't going to let them beat her down or make her stop enjoying life with her wonderful family.
I’ll also have you know that I held my head high, unflinching as you mocked me, pretending that what you said and did had no effect on me; but I cried in the car on the drive home. Thanks for ruining my day. It’s people like you who make this world an ugly hateful place. I can’t help but feel sorry for the women who will one day bear your children and become “gross” in your eyes as their bodies change during the miraculous process of pregnancy. I can only hope that one day you’ll realize that my battle scars are something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
News.com.au said that her post on Facebook was received with a huge amount of support, and not just from those that know her personally.
Tanis Jex-Blake ended up getting a whole bunch of supportive messages and comments. Her picture and words were shared time and time again. A local radio station, Hot 107 Edmonton, shared her story and after just 24 hours, it had over one million likes and 200,000 shares.
Being called the "fat-shaming mom" in some Internet circles, Jex-Blake is simply letting everyone know that she wasn't going to sit back and take being bullied. She wasn't looking for attention or interviews or fame.
All she wanted to do was spend a day at the beach and enjoy wearing a bikini for the first time in 13 years so she could get some sun.