Have you ever heard the term, “it’s not official, till it’s facebook official?” This lingering term is what relationships are solely based upon in the facebook world. You’re not officially in a relationship, engaged, or married until it shows it in blue lettering portraying your status. And again, you’re not officially broken up either until the blue lettering reverses back to black, signifying the word, “single.”
So how has facebook changed the role upon relationships? Amongst 400 million users who are currently on the social networking site there seems to be sub categories that are forming and defining relationships.
Passive aggressive relationships
Today we have those passive aggressive relationship users on facebook, where the couple would rather bicker to their friends, instead of each other Sometimes getting more personal than most would want to see. In a recent article from the New York Times, “ I need to vent, hello, facebook,” shows these types of relationships firsthand.
“It’s a question being asked a lot these days as couples, who once had to leave the house to fight in public, take their arguments onto Facebook. Whether through nagging wall posts or antagonistic changes to their “relationship status,” the social networking site is proving to be as good for broadcasting marital discord as it is for sharing vacation photos.”
Many couples will say they are just teasing, or making remarks against their significant others to vent their anger. Again it does not go unnoticed specifically by that one person, but the hundreds who are in the web of friends and family of the couple. As these relationships and marriages continue it simply showcases the development and the downfall, which may occur.
Put on a show relationships
Other take the website to platform their, “perfect relationships and marriages,” while portraying couple vacations, holidays, and changing their statuses to let everyone know how much they are involved with the other person. Unlike the passive aggressive couples, these two are obviously not wanting anyone to know anything personal that may develop others to think anything but the best of them.
On and off again
These couples battle their statuses at least once every few weeks. They cannot make up their minds on terms if they are together or not. How many times have you come to a wall post to ask yourself, “I thought they just broke-up?” To see a wall post, saying that, “ I love you, babe.” These couples are like light switches sometimes they're on, sometimes they're off.
As facebook changes how we communicate and stay connected, it definitely plays a vital role in how relationships are seen as well. So next time you decide to change your relationship status, or comment remarks towards the other person, remember the rest of the world is watching.