So many justifications in one's mind keep fears alive and strong. There can be multiple reasons that someone is unhappy or unfulfilled with life; however, ultimately, it can most likely be boiled to one element...fear. Fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of change, fear of past experiences or fear of the future seem to consume the mind of many. A beautiful quote to always keep in the forefront of the mind is: "Most obstacles melt away when we make up our minds to walk boldly through them". (Orison Swett Marden)
That quote is so true. Regardless of your current situation, if you choose to face it directly, in the present moment, the strength of fear fades. In a nutshell, when you learn to live in the present, you do not have to consume yourself with fear of the future. It sounds simple and one might even initially respond with the thought, "but you do not know what I am going through". That statement is true; however, everyone has struggles to face and it is how you face them now that determines the future.
Overcoming the powerful emotion of fear is a life changing transition. Once you realize there is more to the life you currently see, you learn to surrender to the moment. To learn to surrender is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. You have to let go of fears to make room for the positive to come in. Initially, it may be overwhelming; however, once you take the first step, it gets easier and easier.
A great example of taking the first step is perhaps choosing to do something you would never imagine yourself doing. Take skydiving for example. If you are currently thinking, "I would never jump out of a plane", then perhaps it is time to do it. Achieve that experience and a whole new world opens up. Once you face a fear and realize it was not as bad as you mentally or emotionally endorsed it, you free yourself to live with enthusiasm. Ultimately, to release all fears...even the fear of death, gives you the strength and ability to live your life the fullest. After it is all said and done, that is why you are here...to live your life.
Emotions, such as happiness, sadness, anger, etc. are just part of the ride in this lifetime. Learn to ride the wave and know that nothing lasts forever. Too often, our society is compelled to eliminate or create an emotion with a pill. Unfortunately, the power of the pill eventually wears off and another one has to be added. Instead, start learning how to experience and deal with the emotions of life. Happiness, love, and excitement are wonderful. Sadness, anger and frustration are challenging. But, the truth is, you cannot appreciate one without the other. Taking any emotion to the extreme is never good. Instead, keeping things in the middle ground keeps the boat ride nice and steady. You may hit a wave here and there, but the ride will ultimately be a good one. Just like a good captain of a ship says..."steady as she goes."
Be the captain of your life. Make it a great journey. Life will not begin if you never leave shore. You might feel safe staying in your dock, regardless of its condition; however, does that make a good ride? Learn something new. Read positive books. Try different forms of exercise. Basically, think and live outside your box. Face your fears and make it the best ride ever.