If you haven’t heard about this particular ‘app’, it will soon will be making the rounds among teens--and their parents. The name of it is ‘The Boyfriend Trainer’. Simply put, it is a weak attempt at relationship humor. It ‘assumes’ that a girl can make her beau ‘learn’ from his ‘bad’ behavior by a series of brutal and painful lessons. In short, it glorifies meeting perceived ‘negative’ behaviors with violent retribution under the guise of ‘good, clean fun’. The 'new' feminism rears its head in 2013.
Obviously, if there were a ‘girlfriend trainer’ the talking heads in the media would be doing documentaries about 'violence against women'. Since the violence is against men, then all is ‘thought’ to be well. Unfortunately, God does not believe in His creation mistreating one other. Man was created first. Woman came from man. When the roles are watered down, meddled with, or overlooked, trouble usually results.
In today’s Bible story out of the Book of Esther, there is another woman who thought that she could ‘train’ her man…that being Queen Vashti. In the first chapter of the book, we see her husband, King Ahasuerus gathered together with the other royal men of his vast kingdom for a massive celebration. At the height of the festivities, the king decided to have his queen brought before his court in order to show off her beauty, and sent his chamberlains to fetch her (v. 10-11).
Queen Vashti, who was busy entertaining the ladies of the royal court, told the chamberlains that she refused to appear before the king (v. 12) and went back to her own devices with her female companions. Needless to say, when the king got word of the queen’s refusal, it sent him--and his royal guests--into a rage (v. 13-18). Ultimately, because of Vashti’s rebellion and attempt to ‘train’ her husband, she was removed from the throne (v. 19). The whole ugly incident was published throughout the empire, by the king’s order, to remind wives to give their husbands honor, both great and small (v. 20-22).
Queen Vashti learned a hard lesson about trying to ‘mold’ a relationship to her whims. The price that she paid? Her marriage, throne and crown.