We all strive to have that happily-ever-after marriage. We also strive to bring happy children into the world. When marriages end, the family environment is broken, and children go to live with one of their parents. In most situations, young children are placed with the mother. When the marriage has ended on bad terms, this transition can make it hard on the children. If a child is living with the mother, he or she may not be able to see their father on a regular basis. Sometimes the mother may keep the child away from their father, out of revenge. In this situation, the only person that is getting hurt is the child. Not only that, the mother may even try to jeopardize any romantic relationship the father has with a woman.
We all want our children to grow up happy and healthy, but, in situations, like the one mentioned above, our children cannot grow up happy. The following are two ideas you can try in order to avoid the divorce drama.
Breathe, speak, and listen
When an argument becomes heated, you will end up saying something that you will regret. However, in instances when children are involved, it is important to remember to breathe, speak respectively, and to listen to one another as you speak. Children understand more than you think, and if you talk badly to (and about) someone, they will pick up on it. Remember, you are trying to communicate for the sake of your child.
If communicating amongst yourselves has not helped your situation, consult a counselor. Sometimes, a third party can help a divorced couple talk things out rationally and to come to an agreement.
Ladies, when it comes to children, they should not be a pawn against their father. Their father helped you bring them into this world. Telling a father that they cannot see their child is one of the worst things you can do to a father and a child. For the sake of the child, allow your child’s father to see his children.
If you are in the New York area, and need to seek the advise of a marriage counselor, contact Dr. Ronald Katz. He specializes in marriage and family counseling, and divorce.