Elin checked out Tiger's mistresses online and
rated them. Photo: AP/Tucker
To satisfy her curiosity about Tiger Woods’ alleged mistresses, Elin checked them out online, and even rated them, according to one of her friends.
The friend said Elin went online to take a look at all the women Tiger has been linked with, and concluded that Rachel Uchitel was “ the most beautiful” and probably the mistress “ best suited” to her husband.
The Improper reported that Elin thought Jamie Jungers and Jaimee Grubbs were “pretty, but very young, ” and that the other alleged mistresses were “ nice looking,” except for Mindy Lawton, who she considered “plain looking,” but conceded that Lawton had “a good body.”
Wives are Naturally Curious About the Mistress
It’s natural for a betrayed wife to be curious about her husband’s mistress.
Jenny Sanford confessed in her famous interview in Vogue magazine that she and a friend Googled Maria Belen Chapur’s name so she could find out what her husband’s mistress looked like.
Most women who are victims of infidelity have a natural curiosity about the Other Woman.
What does she look like? Is she prettier? Smarter? Sexier? Where does she live? What does she do for a living? These are things almost every betrayed wife wants to know.
There’s nothing wrong with this, as long as you don’t allow healthy curiosity to turn into an obsession.
Wives of High Profile Cheaters Have an Advantage
Betrayed wives of cheating politicians, sports figures, celebrities and other men in the public eye have a definite advantage when it comes to gathering information about the Other Woman.
They can always count on the media to do the investigative work necessary to find the name and age of the mistress, her marital status, where she lives and works, when the affair began and how long it’s been going on, where and how often they met, what type of person she is, and other details about the affair.
If there’s any aspect of the affair the wife is curious about, the media will usually fill in the blanks. Of course, she may have to separate fiction from fact.
But if you’re an average wife or girlfriend with a cheating spouse or significant other, you don’t have that advantage. So you may have to do some digging on your own just to find out the name of the mistress, and a few other basic facts.
Online services can provide affordable help. A reverse phone search or an e-mail address search can help you identify the mistress by name. A reputable online background check service can provide other details that you might want to know.
What a Wife Should Know About the Mistress
I always advise women to run an online background check if they have the mistresses’ name, because there are certain things a wife or girlfriend needs to know. See What You Need to Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why.
What kind of person is your husband or boyfriend dealing with? Your safety and well-being, and that of your family could be at stake.
There are cases like that of ESPN’s Steve Phillips and Brooke Hundley, where a mistress has stalked, threatened, harassed or even attacked her lover or his family, during, or long after the cheater ends the affair. See Brooke Hundley’s Behavior Raises Questions Every Cheating Man Should Ask about His Mistress
Sometimes protective measures need to be put in place.
The mistress may be violent, or aggressive like Joey Buttafuco’s teenage mistress, Amy Fisher, who shot Joey’s wife, Mary Jo Buttafuoco in the head.
She could be mentally unstable or emotionally fragile like Steve McNair’s mistress, Sahel Kazemi, who shot and killed Steve, then turned the gun on herself.
Another Pressing Question You May Have about His Mistress
Another question that may weigh heavily on your mind is “Will he leave me for her?”
The answer to that question can be a determining factor in how you decide to handle the affair. See Go or Stay – How to Decide Whether to Give a Cheater a Second Chance.
Certain signs of infidelity can tell you whether the affair poses a serious threat to your marriage or relationship, or whether your husband or boyfriend is merely having a fling. Knowing what to look for is the key. See Will He Leave You for Her?
Learn all you can about his mistress, because the more you know about her, the better equipped you’ll be to make an intelligent decision on how to handle his affair.
*** © copyright 2010 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog.
For more information on mistresses, cheating men, and extramarital affairs, see:
What You Need to Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why
Brooke Hundley’s Behavior Raises Questions Every Cheating Man Should Ask about His Mistress
YaVaughnie’s Billboard Revenge Shows Why Cheating Husbands Should Check Their Mistress Out
Go or Stay – How to Decide Whether to Give a Cheater a Second Chance (free tip sheet)
Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports
Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate
www.CheatingSpousePhoneSearch.com
www.CheatingSpouseEMailSearch.com
www.CheatingSpouseBackgroundCheck.com
Is He Cheating? – Is She Cheating? 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)
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