It is true. Dwyane Wade has a newborn son with a woman he has reportedly known for quite some time. Rumors were swirling back in January of 2013 that Wade had conceived a child with a woman other than his new fiancee, Gabrielle Union. Popular online gossip sites like Lipstick Alley posted allegations of the pregnancy and speculation as to the identity of the mother. E!Online broke the news of the baby boy earlier on Monday, sending social media into a frenzy.
Monday night, December 30, 2013, Wade confirmed to Sun Sentinel that his son was born in November.
According to the Sentinel:
He said he does not believe this latest revelation has compromised how he should be viewed.
"It would compromise it if I wasn't a father first," he said. "I'm always going to be a father first. T hat doesn't change. If you decide to when you can be a father, that's when it compromises.
"But, like I said, this is something, obviously, private for my family that we will continue to deal with as a family. But we have a blessing to the bloodline, to the Wade bloodline. And from that standpoint, it doesn't, to me, state anything differently from what I've always shown."
Wade asked for privacy in this matter, but is a veteran of social media and public fodder when it comes to his relationships. Wade's very nasty divorce from high school sweetheart Siohvaughn Funches stayed in the spotlight for more than three years.
Union, whose BET show "Being Mary Jane" premieres January 7, 2013, seems to have come to terms with the matter, and is ready to move forward with her marriage to Wade. Union took to Twitter to apparently encourage detractors to work on themselves and stop placing blame and shame on others. In February, Union also took to social media to defend her relationship with Wade and argue with his alleged paramour.
Wade will more than likely continue his work with President Obama's Fatherhood Initiative, and seek a fourth championship with the Miami Heat.
What you can learn from this very public "private matter"
- When having indiscriminate sexual relationships remember that babies are a byproduct of sex.
- Social media is a great place for dialogue, but a terrible place for relationships.
- Relationships are imperfect but do not have to be destructive.
- Celebrity relationships have the same issues faced by nonpublic people.
- "Role model" is not a label, it is a lifestyle.
By now, people should know where babies come from and how important it is to choose with whom to have children. However, the cycle of divided homes, custody battles, and broken children continues. The adults are who make the decisions, and all too often, the children suffer the consequences, when conception is a "mistake" and not a "plan".
Wade's situation is no different than what occurs in scores of homes across the country. The scenarios are played out in family courts and on therapy couches every day. At some point people may consider having children out of love instead of as a product of momentary gratification.
Yes, Wade is a multi-millionaire, but money does not replace the sanctity of having a mother and father who love each other dearly with a child as an extension of that love. Of course it happens all of the time, but frequency of an event should not equate to that event being optimal. Should it?
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