Over these past 32 years we have heard many sad stories about love gone bad. Frankly, all to often a potential marriage partner is left standing at the altar all alone.
For whatever reason, some decide at the last minute to not honor their commitment to marriage and simple do not show up at their wedding. It is hard to believe the callousness of those who put their lover through such pain. But it happens.
The simple truth is this – leaving your mate standing at the altar is an egregious action. The ultimate question is this – how do these things happen? Why do they happen?
A recent song by Country super-star Dierks Bentley does, perhaps, illustrate the pain of being left alone at the point when you thought you were embarking on a life of love and companionship:
“I took two weeks vacation for the honeymoon
A couple tickets all-inclusive down in Cancun
I couldn't get my money back so I'm in seat 7A
I'm getting drunk on a plane
I bet the fella on the aisle thought I was crazy
Cause I taped your picture to the seatback right beside me
Now I've got empty mini bottles fillin' both our trays
I'm getting drunk on a plane”
(Written by Chris Tompkins, Josh Kear, and Dierks Bentley)
Recently, we attended the Country Music Association Festival in Nashville, Tennessee. Oh, my, did we have fun! Dierks Bently, Blake Shelton, Miranda Lambert, Florida-Georgia Line, The Band Perry, Luke Bryan, and others filled the nights with beautiful Country music, our passion! We experienced five days of pure heaven!
One of the segments that featured country super stars, showcased Dierks Bentley, one of our favorites! His song, Drunk on a Plane. really resonated with us and the work we have done for these past 32 years. Here’s why.
One of our major contentions, based on our 32 years of research on all seven continents of the world, is this – the best way to ensure a successful marriage is to marry the right person in the first place. It really is that simple.
So how do you know Mr. Right and Ms. Right is the right person to marry. How do you avoid “getting drunk on a plane?”
The truth of the matter is this – way too many of the people thinking about marriage do NOT do the requisite homework required for selecting the right person to marry in the first place. They get enamored with sex, good looks, the desire to be married, and the like, without doing the things necessary to select the right person in the first place.
Marrying the right person in the first place is the necessary prerequisite for a good marriage and making that determination is not as hard as you think.
We have researched great marriages around the world for 32+ years and this we know – marrying the right person is definable and knowable. In fact, marrying the right person IS the secret to a happy marriage.
Did you ever wonder why some people find the perfect person to marry, do so, and enjoy a love affair that lasts a lifetime? On the other hand, some people marry a person that is wrong for them now, wrong for them tomorrow, and wrong for them for a lifetime? What's the difference? Why do some people succeed at love and marriage while others fail?
Included in our book is the How to Marry the Right Guy Quiz. This 33-item questionnaire is designed to measure your potential to marry the right person. Based upon more than 32+ years of research in 49 countries on all seven of the world's continents, these 33 indicators allow folks to discover how their lover stacks up to an ideal spouse.
If you fail to notice and question the actions of the one you love in the early stages of your relationship, then you are deluding yourself into thinking he or she will change later on. And so often, people who ignore the warning signs end up getting married, only to discover later on that the person they married is not who they thought he or she was.
Knowing the 33 indicators and paying careful attention to the person you are thinking about marrying in the early stages of your relationship can save a failed marriage from happening in the first place. This is the ultimate key to a successful marriage.
Do everything you can to avoid “getting drunk on a plane.” Don’t be left on that plane all by yourself. The answers for women to avoid finding themselves in such a place can be found in our book, How to Marry the Right Guy. Check out the answers today!
Don’t get left standing at the alter so you have to get drunk on a plane.
By Dr. Charles and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts
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