In the most emotional situations, our dreams can give us some perspective and some objectivity:
Dear Carolyn,
I met a girl a few months ago and we fell much in love. I believe she is my soul mate and she agrees. But she's been stressed due to family, school finals and work related issues; so I've been giving her space, mainly because she isn't returning my phone calls until a day or two later, and texting me that she would call me and not doing it.
Anyway, here’s the dream:
It takes place in my best friend’s neighborhood. (He's extremely wise and the first person I talk to whenever I run into relationship issues. He gives great advice and always seems to help me through all of my problems. But I haven't told him about this girl because she used to be with a guy that is close friend of his.) I’m walking down his NYC street when I spot the girl. She looks more beautiful than I've ever seen her look before. She's dolled up with a new hairstyle, perfect makeup job and she's glowing, although, in her right arm is a bunch of items, the one standing out the most is a cheap low quality white bubble coat so dirty it’s turning brown.
I approach her calmly and say, “Hey, come here." She grows angry and pushes me away. I reach out for her arm aggressively and pull her in so she can listen to me. She yanks her arm from me. I try again to contain her but she pushes me away again and again. Then everything in her arms falls to the ground; I push her up against this short steel fence, wrap my arms around her and hold onto the fence so she is completely locked in facing me. I look her in the eyes. At this point she hugs me with such intensity and love that I begin weeping vigorously. As she holds onto me I slowly begin to sink into her body as if she was quick sand. I feel love and oneness with a human more powerful than anything I've ever felt in my life.
Thanks, Peace & Love Always
Signed,
Soul Mate in Waiting
Dear Soul Mate,
The setting of your dream holds a key to its meaning for you: When you’re in the mindset (the neighborhood) of the person whose guidance you trust most, you get a glimpse of the advice he might offer you about this “relationship issue.” While this girl looks beautiful, she carries the trappings of a less attractive self - the worn and soiled low quality coat. By your own description you must hold her aggressively, pin her to a fence and force her to look at you. Only then does she hug you, Dear Dreamer.
As much as you long for a deep loving connection, you dream suggests this relationship is one-sided, at best. Proceed with caution! Forcing a feeling could lead to heartbreak. Confide in your friend, Dear Dreamer. He won’t steer you wrong.
Sweet Dreams to You!
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