"I'm so fat." "I hate my body." "If only I looked like (fill in the name of your favorite celebrity)." Dr. Mehmet Oz has a message for women: Lose the fat talk and celebrity comparisons to lose the weight. On his October 29 talk show, he featured just how to succeed with those goals - and we've got the skinny here.
Some women feel that putting down their bodies helps motivate them to shed pounds. Wrong, says Dr. Oz expert Ramani Durvasula, PhD, author of "You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life" (click for details).
When you view food as both friend and foe, focusing on what you eat rather than why you eat as well as fat-shaming yourself, you're harming your physical and emotional health, according to Ramani.
Quote to remember: "No more F bombing yourself! Drop the Word Fat!"
And for those who seek affirmation from others with questions such as "Does this make me look fat?" - it's time to change, says Ramani.
"Fat talk is such a regular part of our vocabulary that most of us don’t think about it. But the fat talk does its damage quietly," she warns.
That poor body image results in a "poor sense of self." The result: You turn to food to feel better, gaining weight, criticizing yourself even more, and falling into a vicious cycle. To change, Ramani offers these tips:
- Stop believing that weight loss equals happiness. Dress to look your best as you are now.
- Replace those "I'm too fat" mantras with positive ones, such as "I'm such a good friend."
- Pay it forward by complimenting others and focusing on what's positive, commenting on the good rather than the bad.
- And follow this rule above all: "If you wouldn’t say it to your kids, or a loved one, why would you say it to yourself? Radiance, beauty and happiness are a head game. And you can change it today. By changing how you talk about you."