Dr. Gary Chapman, author of mega-bestseller, “5 Love Languages,” appeared on Oprah Sunday, Feb. 10, and revealed his love language. Several couples weighed in on their marriage challenges and successes. Eight million books have been sold nationwide.
Chapman says the number one thing he hears from couples on the brink is, they feel like the spark is gone from their marriage and they feel like roommates.
Oprah took a poll on Facebook at Oprah.com, asking: “Do you feel like you and your spouse are like roommates?", and the response was, “60% feel more like roommates than a married couple.”
The 20-year run of “5 Love Languages,” continues to be a tool that couples and individuals use to improve the love in their life. Chapman says that every year, more books are sold than the previous year.
When asked from the audience, “What is your love language Dr. Chapman?” He replied, “Words of affirmation, and my wife’s is, Acts of service.” Chapman says he does chores around the house: takes out trash, takes care of kitchen, etc…and his wife tells him how great he is.
You may wonder how Chapman came up with the idea of this highly successful book. He explains that he gathered and researched the notes of 12 years of counseling and found some common topics in marriages, which sums up into the “5 Love Languages.”
Recap of the “5 Love Languages”:
- Words of affirmation
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Acts of service
- Physical touch
Chapman attributes the success of the book to “word of mouth.” Several audience participants explained how they have shared the book with many of their associates and friends.
In case you’re wondering about Oprah’s love language, it is “Words of affirmation,” with “Acts of service,” following.
You can take the quiz on Gary Chapman's site to learn your love language.