We anticipate the day someone expresses their love to us. We seem to believe that having someone say "I love you" shows us something significant. With that utterance we often feel more secure, acknowledged and validated. Those three little words hold great meaning for most of us.
Many a person has railed at the audacity of a break-up on the heels of someone professing love. Why? Because they thought that the expression of "love" meant something binding. And sometimes it does. But too many times it doesn't mean as much as one thinks.
We've all heard the phrase "words are cheap" or "the most unreliable part of anyone is their mouth." As many a therapist need remind us, "it's not what they say, it's what they do" that counts.Truer words have never been spoken.
Combined with kindness, commitment and action love can mean something but by itself it often means little or nothing. Taking action is the real key to someone valuing you, choosing you, or wanting to commit to you. Not the expression of love. So enjoy the expression of love for sure, but know that it's only an expression of a feeling.
Watch for action beyond words. Watch for what someone does for you and to you. Because what they do shows you what they want and intend with you. And that's where real love lies - in intention.
"Don't say you love me, show me." Now they're talking.