A lot of women like to over analyze their feelings when they’re dating someone new. Because of the reported shortage of available suitors, women often over think how they feel about a potential partner. Their expectations are sometimes knocked down a few pegs for seeming too high and they make excuses for behavior that they don’t exactly approve of. For instance, you make not like men who smoke, but you’ll date a guy who does because other qualities make up for it.
Though smoking isn’t necessarily a deal breaker for most relationships, you can’t settle for things that you don’t agree with. When it comes to dating, there shouldn’t be a lot of back and forth thinking that has to go into making the decision. For example, when women first meet a guy, they know within minutes whether they could see themselves being with him. However, when it comes to making a commitment we over analyze every little detail.
When you’re ready to be with someone, you’re mind and body will know. It’s not like you’re going to receive a message on facebook or tweet about it, but if you constantly have to ask yourself is this the right thing or you feel like you’re just settling, then there’s a good chance that the person just isn’t right for you, or vice versa. Dating is a game, but sometimes we lead ourselves to believe that we ought to be with someone or should give it a chance, even though deep down inside we know that this person isn’t suit for our romantic needs.
You can’t force things to work with someone. If it’s meant to be it will be but at the end of the day, you can’t make yourself love someone and commit to them and expect to be happy. It’s like working at a job just for the pay check. You might like the money but every day feels like hell until pay day. You want a career not a job and you want love not its substitute.
Try attending Havana Club in Atlanta and just go with the flow. The crowd is always mixed and relaxed and don’t over analyze the situation. Whether you see someone of interest or not, just have a good time. Everyone you meet isn’t going to be Mr. Right.