With just this list of three men: John Edwards, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Anthony Weiner. What do they have in common? They are a representation of one part of politics where we don’t want to look to as an example in marriage.
They are a representation of scandals, lies and cover-ups. Then after the volcano has erupted, apologies come forth. It is the same story, different politician.
As much as we like to feed on these gossipy morsels, the reality is that it’s what many marriages in Milwaukee face on sometimes a daily basis. It’s just that our marriages aren’t on public display. So they are secretly and quietly dealt with.
There are still the same issues of lies and deception, but the world doesn’t know. So it is easy to sit back in our recliners, flick on the news and begin to shake our heads in disgust. It is easy to judge the one who has messed up and even the one who has forgiven.
Some look at these scandalous politicians and believe that no marriage can ever really make it. Some measure their own marriage up against it and play the “What if” game. “What if my spouse did that?” “How would I respond?” “Is my spouse capable of lying that way?”
It’s a juicy piece of news but in the end, it is a stark reminder that we shouldn’t look to politics as an example in marriage. Actually, there may not be anything in politics that we can look to as an example.