In relation to personalities and human characteristics, sensitivity refers to being highly responsive or susceptible. More specifically, sensitivity in person appertains to being easily hurt or damaged; especially, being hurt emotionally. With man being under a heavy pressure (from society and himself) to live up to the high expectations to model a tough, manly persona and demeanor, being characterized as being sensitive in light of that definition would be embarrassing and shameful. Generally, it is women who are labeled as being emotional and are expected to be emotionally sensitive. Men are normally expected not to be emotional and are looked down upon for being emotionally sensitive. The myth is women are the more emotional gender. Women tend to express their emotions more outwardly and openly, which would make them only appear to be more emotional and sensitive. The fact is women and men, both, are capable of feeling the same emotions and are capable of being sensitive to all of them.
Fortunately, in lieu of the shame and embarrassment that comes with being labeled as “sensitive,” there is an additional meaning to the human aspect of sensitivity. Sensitivity is, also, defined as the delicate awareness of the attitudes and the feelings of others. With that awareness comes perception, understanding, watchfulness, carefulness, attentiveness, mindfulness, consciousness, alertness, and even consideration. All of these attributes fit perfectly into being a great protector. Now, there is something no man should be ashamed of being. Being a protector is one of the specific qualities that men are rightfully expected to have. However, it is generally the assumed protection of the physical nature. Being sensitive allows you to be a protector of your relationships via emotionally safeguarding the emotional well-being of those you are in relationships with. When you are aware of the attitudes and feelings (emotions) of others, you will be able to adjust yourself accordingly.
Being sensitive within your relationships can create relationship security (protection; i.e., job security). Suppose your child is afraid and is trying to hide it. Being aware of that fear will allow you to comfort them and teach them how to turn that fear into courage; in turn, creating trust and reliability in you from your child. Suppose your wife has a saddened heart. Being aware of her saddened state gives you the opportunity to console and assuage her; in turn, putting you in sacred standing as her “rock.” Suppose you have a friend that is expressing an attitude or feeling of anger. Being aware of their anger will allow you to calm them and bring a rational and impartial perspective to their mood. That creates an identity of stability for you. Being sensitive towards those you have relationships with gives you the opportunity to establish yourself as an integral part of their lives, which is a protection from possible relational breakdowns.
Beyond the aspects of perception, sensitivity displays your intuition (assisting others with your intellect), creativity (bonding with others in ways tailored specifically to who they are), empathy (authenticating relationships via sharing emotions), and passion (deepening relationships by showing others that they matter through sharing joys and sorrows with intention). So, before you take offense to possessing sensitivity, use it as an offensive strategy for building up your relationships. First, acknowledge your sensitivity. Know that it is there and understand why it is there. Secondly, embrace your sensitivity. Take pride in your understanding of others’ emotions and feelings. Develop it with intentional practice. However, do not become overwhelmed by attempting to attend to every emotion of everyone. Also, do not allow the emotions of others to affect you by becoming a detriment to your well-being; control the balance of your empathy. Don’t allow sensitivity (easily hurt) ruin your relationships, but protect them with your sensitivity (delicate awareness).