Happy April Fools Day today. In spite of our blizzard conditions spring is right around the corner. As the weather transitions from the skin roughening winds of winter to the warm caressing winds of spring this blog is transitioning from writing about relationships to writing about grief. In many ways relationships and grief go hand and hand since grief is the price of loving someone.
If we didn't love someone there wouldn't be grief after their death. This transition period of time between experiencing a loved one's death and being able to cope with the death can cause a major chaotic upheaval to a person's life.
This upheaval makes the person and the people around them uncomfortable. The pain, the suffering,and the yearning for what can no longer be is almost to much to bare. Family, friends,and society will pressure the griever to hide the grief or to not show the true experience of grief. The griever can submit to public pressure to be over it wearing a mask each day to make it seem as if they are happy. If the griever expresses the true experience of grief, they are shunned. The experience of grief needs to become more normal and the public needs educated on what is grief.
There are many organizations working to change how grief is perceived. One such organization is Grief the Unspoken Foundation. http://www.griefawarenessday.com/ Accurate information and support groups are available here for anyone suffering from a recent loss or a loss from years ago. Grief comes in waves over the years and the stories need to be told including speaking of the pain of loss.
Professionals such as psychiatrists, doctors, and therapist need to be educated on grief. Grief is a whole body experience. Yet, each of these specialists treat one aspect of the grief experience. The doctor will treat the physical health. The psychiatrists will treat the psychological health with medication. The therapist will treat the grief experience as a mental illness.
None of these approaches will by themselves assist grievers. An intergrated approach to healing which combines all areas of a clients life is needed. Usually the professionals direct how to proceed, grief needs to be directed by the individual for no one person is alike.
An approach which works well for people who are grieving is Life Coaching. In Grief Life Coaching the client determines what is addressed each session, and the coach provides a supportive listening presence to their grief. The Grief Life Coaching supports the client in making life decision in how and when to move forward.
This partnership is essential for helping someone who is grieving. If you are interested in finding out more information about grief visit http://www.habermanncoaching.com