Domestic violence is a somewhat taboo topic to talk about. People don't like talking about it. People are ashamed of it. People want to pretend that it doesn't exist, but it does exist. It exists so much that people are dying from it. We cannot deny something that is happening. It should be made aware of and thrown in your face!
During this past summer, one of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills' husband killed himself because he was too ashamed to have his abusive ways get on air. He physically and mentally abused his wife. So in that season all the housewives found out why he was so unfriendly at parties and how she was so depressed all the time. And how quiet they were and secretive about what's going on in their relationship. These are signs to watch out for. It can also be the total opposite though. The guy can be a huge charmer with lots of friends and secretly beating his girlfriend behind closed doors. You never know. Trust your gut. If something doesn't feel right, it's usually not.
Some women are too afraid to come out and confront who is abusing them. Why? Because most of the time, they came from families were abuse was seen as normal. But it is NOT NORMAL. As women, we need to ban together against violence and abuse. Abuse is not just physical, but can be mental, emotional, and sexual too. There is mental abuse towards women in the workplace and on the street. Life is too hard anyway, then on top of that we have people who are trying to degrade and humiliate us, weaken us to make us think that we aren't smart or capable human beings.
Those men who are abusing you are cowards themselves. Just watch them. Every move they make. They are the most insecure bunch of fools you will know. There is nothing to be afraid of unless you may think there might be (him being physically stronger and physically hurting you.) Men who are violent physically are really bullies on the playground who see something to pick on that's weaker than them meaning you. It's funny how they feel the need to hurt someone closest to them to feel powerful and macho. If only they could see what other people see when they act that way.
Mental abuse and emotional abuse is just as bad. It stings and you hear it in your head over and over like a broken record. Tearing you down from the inside out until you don't even know who you are anymore. The abuser does that to weaken you. To make you feel worthless and unlovable so you stay with them.
Sexual abuse in a relationship is another thing. Just because you are dating or married to someone DOES NOT give them the right to have sex with you anytime they want. You wouldn't believe how many men think it's their right to sleep with you if they buy you dinner even. Then forget about it if your dating them. You have to be there slave from then on. That is B.S. in itself. You are nobody's slave and don't let anyone make you think that you owe them anything.
Abuse can tear you apart and question yourself. It can make you feel weak and you could even end up killing yourself. If you or a friend is in a difficult situation please call the National Domestic Abuse hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or go to their website www.thehotline.org.