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Does saying sorry and I forgive you mean a death sentence for your mate

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You have to be saying what in the world does that title mean? Have you ever met those type of individuals who have wronged their mates and instantaneously they have turned into slaves, inmates as well as they feel as though they have been just added to death row? Simply by the mere fact that their mate may have said, “I will forgive you,” their mate will never let them forget what they've done.

There are those that feel for the rest of their mate’s life they are obligated to them. Very well then, if they must render themselves forever obligated to you; exactly why have you expressed or indicated by your actions you intended to forgive them? What you genuinely intended and desired to do has been to keep them to personally torture and persecute.

The dictionary’s definition of forgiveness is an intentional/deliberate and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense and or wrongdoing. Nowhere does it declare this provides you with a license to torture as well as hold one captive.

Once you have expressed that you have forgiven a person; it's clear that you may not certainly condone an act that one might have done nor will it signify that you don’t possess the right to be emotionally and deeply hurt. Nevertheless, whenever you expressed to forgive, this implies you have agreed and opted to eliminate awareness of the offense from your consciousness.

It in no way signifies each and every opportunity you’re able to, to treat your mate terribly with continually reiterating, "remember what you did to me; you owe me.” This is completely wrong and inappropriate due to the fact no one made you forgive. You had every right to certainly walk away and leave, however, you chose to stay.

As soon as you say you would forgive this meant that you were prepared and are therefore on-board for the restoration of your relationship. Forgiveness is on the part of the victim nonetheless forgiveness does not mean you now make the offender a victim. What exactly is the reason to forgive someone in order to cause them misery, why not, not forgive and set them free.

Why are individuals unable to see there are only two methods to do things, there is a right approach as well as there is a wrong approach? Holding on to anger, animosity, resentment and thoughts of revenge only contributes and triggers stress and anxiety. It will generally cause you to remain in a state of frustration because you must get yourself daily and continuously to recall the offense.

Nearly everyone has experienced hurt by actions or words from another person. We all get the opportunity to make a choice to forgive or not to. In the event we have chosen to forgive we need to forgive and forget. Holding on to prior wounds leave lasting agony and resentment.

The Bible clearly states that vengeance will be given by God, so, who are we once we have opted to forgive to thrust a sentence on our mates. We suddenly feel in our relationship we have the right to make all the rules and expectations of our relationship. Those of us that hold on to offenses stay sad, confused and depressed; therefore you will not give your own self a reasonable opportunity of peace from within.

Ones get so wrapped up in the offense that you just remain full of resentment and won't be able to see or feel present enjoyment. Perhaps your mate has genuinely improved and transformed themselves and would love to shower you with love and tenderness. Nonetheless as the result of bitterness not only won't you allow your mate to offer you true kindness but you're also not permitting yourself true happiness and permitting yourself to have a loving companionship.

Life is very short and tomorrow is never promised. The advantage and benefit of true forgiveness is ultimately peace and contentment in your relationship. Never make your mate a prisoner in their own home. Let it go, if you should say you will forgive; then forgive, otherwise as I said mentioned previously, let them go.

We all have done things that perhaps could have hurt or offended someone and we too ask for forgiveness. If an individual chooses to forgive then the proper course would be to forgive as well as forget. Never hold yourself and someone else hostage to cynicism and resentment, this will only produce anxiety and stress.
Seek ways to enjoy peace in your relationship...forgive!!

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