Do you have days or weeks when it seems like everyone you are coming up against is giving you a hard time and being difficult? They know you are practicing patience, forgiveness, tolerance, right thought, mindfulness and meditation, and they think they can get away with anything.
You must come to realize these people are showing you something about yourself. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. You are not being strong for yourself and you are not standing up for yourself. The answer is not to be a doormat for people to wipe their feet off on. You must say "no" to working late for the 15th time for your coworker, no to the babysitter who wants to know if her friends can come over while she watches your children, and no to the lover that "dogs you out" just because he's insecure.
Sharing compassion and love fore your fellow beings is to stop enabling someone else's destructive behavior, and setting limits. Practicing loving kindness doesn't mean you aren't proactive.
When you are having nothing but hardships and difficulties it can be disheartening and painful. hardships and difficulties one right after the other can bring about disturbing emotions like unhappiness and depression that pollute your mind and now you have all of that to clear. A mind that is inflexible brings more suffering to the situation. When you train your mind and practice techniques it brings you inner strength and courage and a calm mind. Your mind is flexible and can handle whatever life may bring, like water to a ducks back it rolls right off.
This is teaching is a great lesson in seeing your delusions and how to handle disturbing emotions. One example of this teaching is the inspiring story of, "The Karate Kid.". Mr. Miyagi witnesses a lone teen boy, Daniel being attacked by a local gang. Mr. Miyagi steps in and defeats all five gang members and sets to teaching Daniel to have inner strength, courage and peace and serenity through meditation and hardy chores and exercises specific to karate. Daniel also gains confidence in his body. Mr. Miyagi develop a strong bond and friendship because they both have suffered through hardships and difficulties: Daniel has just lost his father and moved in with his mother, Mr. Miyagi lost his child and wife through childbirth during his stay in internment camp during World War II. Daniel is able to standup to the local bully and is able to defeat him in karate tournaments.
Disturbing emotions are not good for anything. It is like having a broken arm, when it is broke it is very painful and the doctor sets it and puts a cast on it and now it feels awkward and uncomfortable for a time. Then your arm begins to heal and is strong and usable again.
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