Do you wish others would understand you better? Do you feel that if others understand you more, you would have better relationship with them? If you ever encountered with this kinds of situations, then you need to be more open to others. It is your responsibility to make sure others understand you, and not the other way around.
The fastest way for others to truly understand you is when you share from your heart. If you feel like you have been sharing a lot to others, but seem like they still do not understand you, then you have not been sharing from your heart. It does not matter how much you share, others will not be able to understand unless you share from your heart. In addition, sometimes you do not have to share much to have others understand you if you share from your heart.
However, in today society, we have a very difficult time sharing from our heart. When we were growing up, our family and society do not support deep sharing. When we share something from our heart, emotions will develops that will make the situation uncomfortable. As a result, our parents would tell us to keep our feelings inside because they do not want to feel uncomfortable or believe that it will disturb the family. However, emotions are just powerful cues to tell others and ourselves that what we share is important and precious to us.
Since we did not have many opportunities when we were growing up, we have to relearn on how to be comfortable sharing from our heart. In this case, it takes practice for us to be comfortable to share from our heart. The beginning is always the hardest because you will get really emotional to a point that you want to quit sharing. However, as you keep on practicing, it will get easier and your emotional level will decrease and it will become a natural thing to you. Soon you will realize that people will understand you so well that you will have great relationship with them. The great things about sharing from your heart is that it will give you opportunities to see what things are important to you depend on how emotional you get. The more emotional you get the more important the issue it is to you.
If you have a difficult time sharing from your heart, one way to help you is to go to environments that support deep sharing. There are many support or therapy groups that allow deep sharing without judgment. Or many retreat centers that hold groups for life sharing. It is all about the environment, if the environment is positive, you will become positive. If the environment allows deep sharing, you will start to share from your heart without realizing it. However, if you live in an environment that do not support deep sharing, it does not matter how much you want to share from your heart, it will be very difficult to do so.
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