Many people across the nation are self-sabotaging their life without even knowing it. The more obvious forms of self-sabotage behavior center around drugs or alcohol. Addiction is often a slow form of suicidal behavior. Addicts have such a lack of self-love and self-respect that they slowly poison their body and soul.
Studies show that only 10% of people seek treatment for addiction in the U.S. Some are forced by the courts or dropped off at rehabs by family members. This means that 90% of the remaining addicts are putting their families through living hell by not seeking treatment. Not to mention that they do not even deem themselves worthy enough to seek help.
Next, there are thousands of parents across the U.S. suffering with tremendous guilt over their child having an addiction. They too can self-sabotage with health problems, personal satisfaction, and career and relationship problems. They might mortgage the house to pay for Johnny’s rehab. Whenever a person has guilt you will often see various forms of self-sabotage behavior.
People with self-sabotage behavior will allow themselves to remain in unfulfilled relationships. If they truly loved themselves they would not remain in relationships where their needs go unmet. In addition, they can also remain in jobs that they hate. One might accept a low paying and unsatisfying career. One might skip preventative health check-ups.
Chronic grief after losing a loved one often result in self-sabotage behavior. The remaining relative is often unaware that he is even self-sabotaging his life. He might marry a woman who could punish him more than he could ever punish himself. Next, he never connects the dots that his underlying guilt was a factor in his mate selection.
A less obvious form of self-sabotage behavior can be with self-depreciating thoughts. You can just record or journal the thoughts you say on a daily basis. Many people are completely unaware how hard they are on themselves. Our words speak volumes about the conditions of our life. Most people with addiction are suffering with self-depreciating thoughts as well as negativity.
A person who harbors self-judgment and resentment carries a great deal of self-sabotage behavior. Their heart is closed to receive all the good that the universe has to offer. Their resentment keeps others from coming near them thus keeping love out of their life.
Next, not being able to forgive others who have wronged you is another form of self-sabotage behavior. A lack of forgiving often gives the person with self-sabotage behavior an excuse to not be successful. The real crisis is that many parents are passing down their self-sabotage traits to their children. These behaviors are easily modeled through Social Learned Theory.
Children subconsciously model what is seen in the home. If you really want to impact the next generation than become more aware of your own self-sabotage behavior.
How much better life will the next generation have if you learn to be kind to yourself!
A simple affirmation can be repeated, “I nurture myself” or “I am kind to myself” repeated out loud 15 minutes a day for 21 days.