The holiday is Halloween. No one has the day off for this holiday from work, or from school and the banks are open and the mail is delivered! Yuck, what kind of a party for a holiday is that.
A few years ago on Halloween, my networking pal was explaining to me, he was home and the one who was on candy hand-out duty, as his wife had volunteered to work a fundraising party at school with their children. He was amazed at how he knew no one.
Yes, of course there were the costumes, however, he realized he did not know if someone was a neighbor with their children or a person from an entirely different town who was just stopping by to collect candy with their kids because they heard it was a great block to score the goodies. How was this possible? After all they had been living here for over ten years!
He considered, “well I do leave the house every morning at 5:15 AM. Drive to the train station. Get on the Metro North for an hour or so. Most weekdays I do not return home until 7:30- 8:00 PM. For at least eight or nine months of the year I am traveling for five or ten days or more each month. So when would I ever meet anyone who lives around here anyway?”
Let’s consider what, let’s call him JIM, is saying. He absolutely has a busy work schedule. Many of us would not want to work, commute and travel the way Jim does. Others of us would thrive in this type of environment. Is it fair for Jim to say he has no time to meet his neighbors? Or are we hearing an excuse?
If we take into consideration the busy work schedule Jim has, the commute he has to and from work by train and the travel schedule, Jim does have the ability to schedule and prioritize his time otherwise he would never be able to consistently exist in his environment. The actual fact is Jim has never made the getting to know his neighbors and their families a priority to him. Further proof is in his closing statement on this topic
Jim said, “It felt weird not really knowing who the people were, but on the other hand what difference did it make, it’s not like we were throwing a party for them at our house and inviting everyone inside for a few hours.”
Consider your entire life as you plan and execute your career goals. All people matter. Take a few minutes to get to know your neighbor. Some you will be able to help. Others may be able to help you.
Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified personal and executive coach who resides in Stamford, CT.