Since the sexual revolution, many women have come into their own in the bedroom. They know what they like and they are much less afraid to ask for it. Some are traditional and some are kinky, but no matter how you like it, the end results are the same. Men are typically able to orgasm more quickly than women. Women take longer to start and finish in most cases, whether in a committed relationship or a casual one. In committed relationships, men are more likely to finish the course with their partner than those just having casual sex. With that being said, are women really sexually satisfied in casual sexual relationships?
Dr. Elisabeth Lloyd of Indiana University has recently published a book, "The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution" which looks at the top 20 leading theories regarding the female orgasm. She believes the most convincing one was introduced by Dr. Donald Symons. His theory was that female orgasm were a byproduct of parallel male and female development in utero during the first eight or nine weeks. "In that early period, the nerve and tissue pathways are laid down for various reflexes, including the orgasm," Dr. Lloyd said. "As development progresses, male hormones saturate the embryo, and sexuality is defined. In boys, the penis develops, along with the potential to have orgasms and ejaculate, while 'females get the nerve pathways for orgasm by initially having the same body plan.'"
It is well known that many women do not orgasm during intercourse. In fact, Dr. Lloyd studied 32 studies performed over the last 74 years and found that less than one-quarter of women orgasmed often or very often without the assistance of clitoral stimulation. Dr. Alfred Kinsey wrote in his book in 1953 that his research showed women to have orgasms always or almost always 39 to 47 percent of the time, but he included intercourse with clitoral stimulation.
In this day and age of friends with benefits and casual sexual relationships, what does this mean for women? Frustration in many cases. While women are becoming just as likely to engage in these types of relationships, a recent study of 24,000 students at 21 universities over five years by Paula England, a sociologist at NYU, shows that only 40% of women achieved orgasm while 80% of men did. Women in committed relationships reported they were able to achieve orgasm almost 75% of the time. Some describe casual sexual encounters as liberating, but if both partners aren't achieving the same level of pleasure (orgasm), is it any wonder that women prefer committed relationships?