Why are kids dishonest?
Are we teaching our children to lie or cheat in order for them to succeed? Michael Josephson addresses this issue in his article, “Something to Think About: Why Are Young People so Cynical and What Does This Say About the Future?” (www.whatwillmatter.com) . In surveys online, “Agree or disagree? In today’s society, one has to lie or cheat at least occasionally in order to succeed. Forty-three percent of respondents 17 and under believe lying is sometimes necessary. The conclusion is that the more cynical about honesty, the more one justifies dishonesty. People who agreed with the statement are 2-4 times more likely to cheat. Josephson is located in L.A. and offers workshops for parents, teens, and educators,”
In an online article on www.learnvest.com, they address “comparisonitis.” In other words, how do we deal with fabricating that is motivated by wanting to be accepted and comparing oneself to others. A kid making up a story that she or he has a big house is the result of being embarrassed by the truth If the child lives in an apartment or a small house, for example, he might not want his friends to know. Spending on kids has also gotten out of control. Whether it is due to guilt for not being able to spend as much time with them or not wanting to deny them anything, parents need to ask themselves how important where they live is to the big picture. Do they have to keep up “with the Jones’?”
We live in a society where our worth is judged by what we have. Self-worth comes from the parent-child relationship and not money. Raising children has become a business involving tutors, classes, etc. These activities can help boost a tween’s self-esteem, as long as the child isn’t overloaded.
Another way to help build self-esteem and counteract the cynicism is to find a group, such as Girls Empowerment Center (www.girlsempowermentcenter.com in Westlake and Thousand Oaks. There are also life coaches for tweens and teens, such as Jess Berger (Jess@My CoachJess.com (610)506-7896.
No matter where you live or how badly we want our children to succeed, being honest and building self-esteem will be the best avenue to choose.