For the Lord corrects and disciplines everyone whom He loves, and He punishes ... every son whom He accepts and welcomes to His heart and cherishes.... And to Jesus, the Mediator (Go-between, Agent) of a new covenant, and to the sprinkled blood which speaks [of mercy], a better and nobler and more gracious message than the blood of Abel [which cried out for vengeance]. [Gen. 4:10.](Hebrews 12:6, 8, 12, 13, 22-25 AMP)
To be loved and cherished by the Lord is a privilege, a comfort and our only real security. The word cherish means someone is fond of us or that we are treasured. How could we ask for anything more than being treasured by God.
Something that comes with that love and being cherished is discipline. Not just setting up a routine, or making a list but the kind of discipline that hurts. The kind of discipline that stops us in our tracks and says turn another direction and turn now. The kind of discipline that saves us from ourselves. This is a part of the love and cherishing not an extra He adds on. He chastises us because He loves and cherishes us. Because He is compassionate towards us the burden of discipline is eased and we don't become resentful.
Later on in the 12th chapter of Hebrews it talks about Jesus, He's Someone who we should fear, actually the idea is more love and honor with all our heart. He spilt His blood to show mercy to each of us, cleansing us from sin. Abel, who's life was taken by his brother, the blood speaks to us from the ground. It says faith and a contrite heart is a better sacrifice than his brother's, Cain's anger. But Jesus' blood calls out from the ground with a different, better message. Abel's blood also speaks of vengeance for his death. Jesus blood speaks of grace and mercy and "Father, forgive them."
A Christian's path doesn't go the easy way always. Loving your enemy, showing love to a homeless person, forgiveness are all difficult but make for a rich life and a beautiful one. That's why He loves us enough to nudge us towards what is right.