There is no doubt that the new generation of children are extremely different from those of the past. Never in history have so many families have had to deal with complete disrespect, dishonesty, drug use, and total rebellion as with the generation of teens that we are now raising. There are many theories as to why this is happening, such as the amount of broken families, the lack of discipline in the home, and children that are being given too much freedom, due to the fact that most homes are now two income families in order to pay the bills. However, many believe the biggest factor in what has happened to our children today, is the interference of government in the raising of our children. Many parents are afraid to discipline their children the way they were disciplined as kids, because of the threat of the Department of Human Services showing up at their door accusing them of abuse.
There is no doubt that there is a good purpose behind the DHS organization, as it is a fact that there are many children in the United States that are truly being abused and need to be removed from their homes for their protection. There is no excuse for child abuse, and the correct use of this government agency in investigating and taking action to save children who are truly being abused by their caregivers has been a life saving tool, and to those case workers at DHS who have done their job correctly and helped those children who are in trouble and placed them in safe homes, you are indeed a hero.
The problem is that in recent years, this agency has been given a great deal of power over our families, and has misused their authority in terrible ways. They have left children in homes that are unfit, only to have that child die at the hands of their parents only months later, and they have taken children from loving families with no proof of true abuse and without doing any real investigating to make sure that any allegations against the family in question are true. They have done more harm than good in the past years, and they have made parents around the nation afraid to discipline their children in a proper way, because they are afraid that this agency will accuse them of abusing their child, when all they are doing is disciplining them the same way that they were disciplined as children. Parents who are raising teenagers at this moment, came from a generation in which spanking was not considered abuse, it was one of the most effective ways of teaching children right from wrong. There is a huge difference between spanking and beating your child, and the fact that most parents are afraid to spank their children for fear of this agency is one of the biggest reasons that our children and teenagers no longer have a healthy respect and even a healthy fear of us as parents. We have lost our authority over our children, because we are too afraid to discipline them properly, and that is a travesty.
One of the most important things that I learned, is that our children have figured out that we are afraid of this agency and have learned to use this to their advantage in our homes. They have figured out that the agency will believe anything they say about you as parents, and that they can get their way by using the system, or threatening us with the system to control us as parents. Therein lies the danger of this agency, and it is just a fact that a complete overhaul of the DHS system and how it operates is desperately needed.
I have personally investigated hundreds of cases in which DHS has dropped the ball, either by not protecting a child that really was in danger, or by removing a child from a perfectly healthy home for years over a lie that a teenager told a case worker in order to hurt their parents.
We parents are living in a state of crisis where our teenagers are concerned, and if something is not done soon, we will lose total control. Our teenagers are the leaders of tomorrow, and to be honest, that scares me to death at this point.
Little by little we have let the government take away our rights, but the government has no business telling us how to raise our children unless they are indeed being abused, which is rarely the case. I am truly afraid of just how far this will go if we continue to stand by and do nothing.
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