I recently had a conversation with a gentleman who shared his trials in dating while his divorce is pending. He enjoys the company of the opposite sex, but his love of women gets construed during dates. A weekday 9-5 worker, at 6:00 p.m. on Friday evenings he scrolls through his cell phone contacts in search of the next woman “he’s going to run through that weekend.” The aforementioned quote comes right from the horse’s mouth. He spends Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays on dates with different women. He uses the term “run through” because that’s what his dates allow him to do. After enjoying dinner, he’s asked in code “What’s up after dinner?” which translates into “let’s have sex.” The gentleman has no respect for the women he dates who sell themselves short by offering their bodies for dessert. Although this gentleman enjoys the company of a pretty woman, with his impending divorce, he said he’d love to enjoy a quiet dinner or a movie and then go home alone. However, once the actual date is over, he’s always offered sex. Sure it’s up to him to turn down the offer, but how many men would actually say no?
This gentleman does not deny that he’s on the rebound. No one wants to be alone and we all have choices. If being involved in a fulfilling relationship is the ultimate goal, neither party will be satisfied by dating in this manner. If you’re involved in this type of relationship and wonder why a man hasn’t committed or if he hasn’t placed an engagement ring on your finger, he’s content having you for dessert. Just because he chooses you from the cart, placing yourself on the menu after every date won’t get you any closer to reaching your goal. Not every man you date should be offered your goods. Men love to be challenged. There’s a thrill to the chase and nothing worth having comes easy. Why should your dessert be any different?
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