This is the time of year when we sit back and reminisce about the previous 8 months. Think about the fun times, the retrospective times and the future. This is especially bittersweet for caregivers. We take the time to look back on good times and bad, knowing these will not occur again. This is a view of the world which should be shared by all human life, not just caregivers.
It is so obvious when caring for someone with dementia, what the high points and the low points were in their life. Even through the fog of dementia, they still see and hear the times which impacted their lives. Caregivers will tell you they can work with people in both of these areas of remembrance; it is the in-between which presents the problem.
The in-between times in a person’s life are those caught in a fog of dementia. Yes sometimes it is difficult for our clients to come to terms with this event. However, more often than not it is more difficult for us because we are the ones seeing the decline and know what this signifies. There are tools to help with some of the fog, but soon enough there are no tools and we must forge on alone. The best caregiver in the whole world will tell you – no matter how hard we work at this, there are signs and expressions which tell the client or friend, what we don’t want to betray. www.amazon.com/books has listing for a book by Moyra Jones “Gentle Care”. This caregiving tool is set up using the physical therapy model of care and not the medical model used so often in our country. It works and is so humanistic.